Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Save The Turnips
From an email from ACFC (American Coalition for Fathers and Children):
"The campaign to confront Child Support Agencies and their inhumane practices toward child support payers is off to a rousing start. But there’s more…One basis of this campaign is disgust over how child support officials identify child support payers as ‘turnips.’ We provided a link to a National Child Support Enforcement Association (NCSEA) training program titled: “Getting Blood from a Turnip: New Farming Techniques for Increasing Your Yield.”
Apparently folks at NCSEA got the message, sort of. Within hours of the start of the ‘Save the Turnips’ campaign NCSEA programmers had changed the website and pulled the reference to obligors as ‘Turnips.’ Of course, we thought you would like to see those ‘before and after’ alterations. The NCSEA is apparently still farming, just not specifically ‘turnips.’
If only the decades of damage these people have done to families through their campaigns to vilify child support obligors was as easy as altering a webpage.
You know, I just think that men are more than Turnips to be bled is all.
These men have nothing left to give women or women's children / family. These men can not support themselves much less a woman and her children. Many men are out of work. 82% of all jobs lost in The Great Recession or what is being called the "mancession" have been men but women petitioned the government to divert the Stimulus Package to women in growing industries and the request was granted! Many men supporting their ex-family and ex-children can not even afford to have and support a new family of their own or even support themselves at the moment.
Most lack of pay to women is from the inability to pay them. Even when he can pay her the chances of him doing so increase proportionally to the amount of time he gets to be involved with his children.
These men do the best they can. Even if they could form another family like women can the risk of being cast out yet again as an isolated resource producing male is just to great to take a chance.
I pray that at very least women will petition their government to free these men from their jail cages, share parenting responsibilities and then support themselves financially. I pray women's government can have mercy upon male turnips.
Many of these women have already found another male to support the matriarchal family. These men as well are potential isolated resource producing males at the moment or are potential male turnips in the making.
I don't know how much longer we can collectively redistribute men's production capacity to support women's choices and our own lack of right to be fathers to our children. Children need fathers. What incentive is there for men to produce in the first place but by enfranchisement as members of the family?
I just wish instead of valuing men as a collective and socialized re-distributors of our providing capacity we were valued as fathers to children and could share parenting. I just wish by incentive of law that men were needed in some capacity as members of the family. I think if men had the right to be equally needed in the family or post dissolution of said family we could at least be involved in the lives of our children. I believe it might decrease the incentive given to women to abandon their family (women initiate 70+% of divorce and particularly the majority of divorces involving children). According to Los Angeles divorce consultant Jayne Major: "Divorced men are often devastated by the loss of their children. It's a little known fact that in the United States men initiate only a small number of the divorces involving children."
It makes sense that perhaps women could have some sort of equal liability, responsibility, reciprocal obligation and accountability to family...or...toward the consequences of disolving said family. It's all very sad what means to an end men have been made to become.
If only men could have a role in society, it's future and the lives of our children. I never understood why men are the ones expected to get on our knees to make a marriage proposal and offer resources to females. I don't really understand what is in it for men. I think this custom is from a time before women changed marriage laws in the 70's toward the ends of default female child custody and no-fault entitlement laws. I think marriage is a humiliating proposition for men. Among other issues afoot between the sexes I think perhaps what might be missing in the assessment upon the decline of marriage in our culture is the very real reluctance of a male incentive to commit to ending up members of a State\woman owned "Turnip" farm.
90.2% of fathers with joint custody pay the support due.
79.1% of fathers with visitation privileges pay the support due.
44.5% of fathers with no visitation pay the support due.
37.9% of fathers are denied any visitation.
66% of all support not paid by non-custodial fathers is due to the inability to pay.
[1988 Census "Child Support and Alimony: 1989 Series" P-60, No. 173 p.6-7, and "U.S. General Accounting Office Report" GAO/HRD-92-39FS January 1992]