Sunday, May 22, 2011

Disciplining Your Male Is Normal

Female abuse is considered hypergamous discipline by the male primordial brain and by the females as well. It is also considered normal by the general population accordingly. We really don’t think of it as violence. Many men “yes dear” it and try to please her more. Many don’t think of it as abuse but rather a fight. Men are less likely than women to see it as abuse when it is directed toward themselves or other men. Women are less likely to see it as abuse as well. Men are also much less likely to call other men (police) for help or report it.

Compounding this issue is the fact that if he did call for help the other males would quickly play up to hypergamy and female selective preference by bettering him out of the game. This is done slamming his face to the concrete, cuffing him and hauling him off for her. This is also reinforced by these same base human propensities enacted by law through structured institutionalized chivalry into law. In fact most female political agency where gender is concerned is actually acted forth through the same mechanism. It is personified within the system by the same gendered biological imperatives toward meeting the ends of the female. Raising the bar upon males as to what constitutes their worthiness is normal, it is hypergamy.

The Violence Against Women Act ended due process under law for males. This in my mind is to be expected. My contention is that it is some sort of biological propensity in action manifested through chivalry and in this case mandated male unworthiness without trial. This makes the State and it's male workhorses worthy of females.

This despite the findings of the most recent large-scale study of DV that was conducted by Centers for Disease Control and Prevention researchers and published in the American Journal of Public Health. The study, which surveyed 11,000 men and women, found that according to both men's and women's accounts, 50 percent of the violence in their relationships was reciprocal (involving both parties). In those cases, the women were more likely to have been the first to strike. Moreover, when the violence was one-sided, both women and men said that women were the perpetrators about 70 percent of the time. LINK

Disciplining your male in some shape or form is standard fare. Female shaming has TREMENDOUS IMPACT upon the male psyche. Males respond quite readily to it. Sometimes having to compartmentalize and shut it out all together. Hypergamous critical nature is actually normal from females toward males. Females have the natural right to complain and to be critical and men do not.

It is so normal in fact that public display of it is accepted, it is considered ok. Watch the below video and imagine if the roles were reversed and it were men who shouted the answer “women”. Only the first portion showing the T.V. show is immediately relevant though the rest serves to exemplify the point. You are welcome to watch the entire video:

You see, mere males do not have the biological authority to scream out loud that we hate women. What occurred in the video would not have happened in is forbidden for mere males to do so. We simply do not have the authority, indeed far from it, in fact mere criticism of women is often times labeled misogyny. This is why many shaming tactics of males involve alleging his biological unworthiness to fit the bill. Any criticism toward women is immediately deflected back as male unworthiness and therefore he must be bitter for not being worthy of females and as such he must hate women, he must be a misogynist or he must not be able to gain their favor with mating opportunity, he must not be able to get laid.

Mere males do not have the authority to be critical of women. Who do we think we are, we are the selective variable who must be worthy of her choice. Our value is wrapped up in male use and male external utility. Our value is not inherent as hers is. A male or man is not something one is by default but rather one must "be" a man. This implies action and male action implies use and use implies male external utility to women and society. Male value or worthiness in all realms is defined by this or the lack thereof.

Again, disciplining your male is normal, it involves voicing a general complaint or criticism or sometimes it involves beating him and yet other times calling other males to force him into submission. Our primordial brains automatically legitimize female criticism of males and interpret it as male unworthiness to live up to female selective choice. Suffice as to say that if the abuse was done in public most all would think the male did something wrong, that he deserves it. This is our collective hive mind analysis of female abuse toward males, this is to say that it is seen as rightful. The hive mind is always right in its assessment. Remember the quintessential game show gimme where you get to ask the audience? Do you remember how the audience is always right? This truth speaks volumes.

Female hypergamy often takes the form of standard fare misandry. Misandry is simply the embodiment vehicle for female hypergamy and associated critical nature. We must understand how females are naturally critical of males and what role this plays, from a "natural" perspective, toward our views of female on male abuse in any form and how it is normalized within culture. We must also ask how this must play out in our domestic perception of female on male abuse including within the legal system or simply within DV advocacy itself.


It is important to understand that it's not that violence against men doesn't happen, in fact violence against men is prevalent. The difference however is that violence against men simply doesn't matter to anyone. This is what the feminist webside Jezebel has to say about the majority of violent attacks being female on male: Have You Ever Beat Up A Boyfriend, Cause Uh We Have You can see that violence against men is not just ok but due to the status men hold, violence against men is ubiquitously seen as deserved. I can't help but to think that it must be natural and of biological origin due to the lack of inherent value that men hold compared to women. Suffice as to say that male welfare is simply not as important. The sheer volume of hatred, criticism and contempt of men that is demonstrated by women is (or at least it has become).....normal.

We have known for some time now that women commit domestic violence against men in equal numbers in all western nations that it has been measured:

The American Psychological Association Journal of Family Psychology has found that, contrary to public perception, women committed more acts of violence than their male partners in 11 overall categories of violence. Specifically, women were more likely than men to throw something, push, grab, shove, slap, kick, bite, hit or threaten a partner with a deadly weapon such as a knife or gun.

When minor and major acts of violence were tallied:

Female-to-male violence accounted for 18.2 percent of overall violence
7.5 percent of severe violence.

Male-to-female violence accounted for 13.7 percent of overall violence and 8.6 percent of severe violence.

So in aggregate females were found to be more critical and abusive toward their male partners and males were found to commit 1.1% more actions considered to be severe violence.

The study, which is based on an interviews with 1,615 married or cohabiting couples and extrapolated nationally using census data, found that 21 percent of couples reported domestic violence.



John said...

"Denise Hines, Ph.D., of Clark University in Worcester, Mass., has studied why many abused men hesitate to leave their female partners. Hines told the conference that while some of the men's reasons for not leaving were similar to those of abused women (love, not believing in divorce, hoping the partner will change, etc.), the men's overwhelming concern was for their children."

And people think that it is men who are abandoning their families.

All thanks to "social engineering".

Bwec said...

Indeed, men do not have the option to divorce once we get on our knees to offer her gold and jewels for the opportunity to reproduce. We have no right to children, our bodies or the fruits of it's labor.

Marriage is the legal commitment of liability and responsibility toward and for a woman and what is considered her child.

Anonymous said...

Ten out of ten.

If it were not so obvious, I would call it "brilliant". Given that misandry and abuse surrounds us all, but few men have the backbone to say anything about it, I will say "courageous" instead.

Anonymous said...

Your article helps to elucidate the little secret that society will not admit. I suspect it would threaten female privilege. It is really women who attempt to dominate relationships and often succeed. They are more controlling, demanding, critical, abusive and initiate most conflicts in relationships. Women gain control by setting the bar and seeing how far men will go for them. Part of their method is emotional terrorism.

Wives have more power than their husbands in making decisions and dominating discussions.
Wives were more demanding—asking for changes in the relationship or in their partner—and were more likely to get their way than the husbands. This held regardless of who had chosen the issue.

Psychologist John Gottman, the marriage therapy guru, has stated that “the biggest revelation we’ve had about how conflicts are best resolved in successful marriages” is if husbands yield to their wives. That is, the key factor in whether a relationship will be happy and successful is whether the husband listens to and obeys his wife. In a statement that shows women’s demanding nature, Gottman also says that women bring up over 80% of marital conflicts while men tend to avoid these stressful discussions

Anonymous said...

I also think we have to understand that men are willing to work with women it is just that women want their cake and to eat it to.

Research shows most men have no problem with their wives outearning them.

Research also shows most working dads would quit or take a pay cut to spend more time with kids if their spouses could support the... family.

Research also shows that parents share workloads more when mothers allow men to be primary parents.

Now, the question is whether women will marry men who are not as successful career and money wise. The only problem is that women are critical and demanding of men when we do have something above them to show for ourselves, imagine if we were dependent on them. How many choices will women let men have? I think the answer is whatever works best for women, men come last in their minds. Very sad.

I would bet that men are more supportive and flexible in relationships than women are.

Venth said...


Joyful_Momma said...

Wow. This is excellent. I knew that other women acted this way toward men but after reading this and watching the videos I have to, shamefully, admit that I have been guilty. I love my husband and I am glad that he is a MAN but I know that if he acted toward me the way I sometimes do toward him I would consider it abuse. I suppose I have some apologizing to do and some behavior to change.