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While attending my local movie theater I came across this sign posted on all the entry doors. On the back it says Eat Pray Love. I was immediately taken back and offended by this message and took a picture. I looked up the movie later and found out that it is about championing women to leave their family and embark on a journey of selfish indulgence and entitlement.
It seems others have picked up on this message but more specifically how it is presented at the expense of men, commitment to others and a family, a true masterpiece of selfish delusion. I will have more of my own opinion on this movie and it's pervading narrative in our culture very soon but for now I'd like to share with my readers the thoughts of other men and even women on the link below who have realized the utter misandry and selfish delusion this type of thinking promotes. It is good to see that others, not just men (but mainly men) took offense to it as well. The book was a run away hit with women selling over 9 million copies and was promoted by Oprah.
Enjoy....
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Feminists on the Defensive as Eat Pray Love Widely Panned by Critics
The Men's Movement is Growing! An effort is underway for men to be able to examine the male experience free of feminist ideology found in the women's Men's Studies programs. This is an effort to allow men to define the male experience and what it means to be male FROM AN OBJECTIVELY SCIENTIFIC & MALE PERSPECTIVE.
THERE IS A COMMENT IN THE COMMENTS SECTION I'D LIKE TO ALSO CLARIFY HERE. There is one man in the video who objects to the creation of Male Studies and he is a member of the feminist camp.
MEN'S STUDIES already exists and this man was invited to provide an objective viewpoint from the other side. Men's Studies was designed and implemented by feminists. It's primary goal is to deconstruct masculinity which is viewed to be destructive, toxic and overwhelmingly negative. Traditional masculinity and gender roles are viewed by feminists to be the primary cause of what feminist term The Patriarchy or the male dominated system in which women are oppressed by men, society and by their role in the family.
Feminist believe that women are an underclass who are oppressed by this Patriarchy. Their primary goal for the last 40 years (the second wave) is to create Independence and Liberation of this oppressed class from the class oppressors and from women's subordinate station and status in society.
The Feminist Men's Studies programs are designed to deconstruct masculinity and rebuild it to form the feminist ideal which is to say the androgynous construct. Feminists believe firmly that the genders are socially constructed and believe in no form of biological differences. Unfortunately feminist ideology has created a massive problem in that men still have the same obligations, responsibilities and liabilities toward and for women that we have always had. The only thing that has changed is a loosend standard of reciprocal obligation from women to men. Women now have more choices but they are financed by male liabilities, an outright double standard and outright systemic and lawful discrimination against men and boys.
SO IT IS IMPORTANT NOT TO GET THE TWO CONFUSED. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Male Studies on the other hand has the goal of creating counter points to feminist ideology and to combat misandry or the hatred and contempt for men and boys in society which feminism promotes. It intends to create a means of defense and advocacy for men and boys. It is an attempt to create a core infrastructure of thought and intellectual conjecture that now permeates the growing Men's and Father's Rights Movement. It is to help create a collective voice that for to long has been unheard and shamed into silence.
It will allow us vital intellectual coalescence which will increasingly take a political stage as well as create and raise awareness of the injustices, sexism, and outright discrimination and contempt for men and boys that shows through in all political, social and economic elements of society.
The goal of men's rights is to obtain equal representation under law and to allow choices and advocacy for men and boys in all realms of society. It is to allow men the right to play a meaningful role in the lives of our children. It is to give us rights to our own bodies and the fruits of its labor.
It is to amend the social contract which has allowed women choices while male labor is expected to provide these choices to women. To make fair and equal choices available to men and to alleviate the subjugation of men while dating, in marriage but most importantly after no-fault divorce. It is to provide this representation in the education system, in governmental services and resources and equal gender secular representation within the social fabric of society which extends to political and social policy, the justice system and family law.
Independence for men can be defined as Independence from women's dependency which now takes place under a double standard, lawful discrimination and social policy in the public and private realms of society.
The foundation is currently raising money to implement the badly needed male representation and voice within Universities nation wide. The first such course in the history of what has essentially amounted to a gender war which has created class conflict between men and women will be implemented at Wagner college. I can not stress enough that this conglomerate will serve as a staging area for male advocacy throughout the rest of society and into the political realm. THIS EFFORT IS A VITAL COMPONENT TO THE ADVANCEMENT OF THE GROWING MEN'S AND FATHER'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT SO PLEASE SHOW YOUR SUPPORT IN ANY WAY YOU CAN.
VIDEO: Male Studies Is Here! It's On The Horizon!!
“It is the Department of Human Rights’ position that ladies’ night is illegal,” Commissioner James Kirkpatrick wrote in the memo. “Gender-based pricing violates the Human Rights Act.”
I've noticed States and municipalities cracking down on free or discounted services for women. The above was issued by the State of Minnesota. It's about time, equality is equality so lets get to it....
It reminds me of the time I went into a restaurant a couple of weeks ago and tried to order a margarita. The woman told me that the prices are for women only. I told her I will not be having a drink at all then.
Next is getting women to share custody of children and thus expect them to financial support their own children equally while providing meaningful contact with the father, paying on dates, and not expecting men to support them after they leave in divorce.
Removing female gender separatist and secular representation in government which is in violation of the Constitution and Equal Rights Amendment. This would include all "women first" and "women only" provisions in all political, economic and social policy.
Laws against and penalties for paternity fraud, enforcement against parental alienation, extending rape shield laws to protect the accused, providing equal domestic violence and family trauma services to men.
Rescinding gender biased domestic violence laws and procedures under VAWA. Rape law reform so that each party is responsible for the decision to have non violent sex while under the influence of alcohol and or drugs.
Protections for boys under statutory rape laws some of whom have been ordered to pay their rapist child support. Protection for sperm donors anonymity and liability as some have been tracked down by lesbians and ordered to pay child support. Code of ethics laws so that male genes are not just handed out to anyone but limited to those with problems conceiving and for married couples only. The concept of trivializing the role men play in reproduction and the lives of children should be legislated against. Selecting male genes from a catalog by what celebrity the male specimen looks like is amoral and reprehensible. It is no different than men selecting female genes and growing children in artificial wombs from the comfort of our home. We have laws against cloning and stem cell research meanwhile it is legal to cut men out of the process of reproduction with a simple doctors note and have male genes sent overnight male to your front door.
Extending Selective Service Military draft registration to women.
Equal reproductive rights where sex and conception is viewed as a mutual act requiring mutual responsibility and therefore the equal exclusive right of each sex to abort responsibility. Each sex should have the right of disregarding the others moral ethics and life choices, not just women.
I hope that as women have property rights over their own bodies and the fruits of its labor both the money they earn and children, that men will someday have property rights over our bodies and the fruits of our labor, our children and our money as women have so that we are no longer coerced by women to provide to them or forced by law to do so in order to enable her choices to leave a marriage by no-fault legislation without any reciprocal obligation toward the man what so ever. The days where female choices are enabled by male liabilities, lack of control and choice over our own bodies and the fruits of our labor should soon be over.
Men's bodies can no longer be the property of the Government to use as cannon fodder by force of war nor to be forced to produce for women that are Independent, Liberated from obligations to men and self supporting.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher states in her book Anatomy of Love: "Unfortunately right now all the blame is on men. Sexual harassment is an issue that has been controlled by women."
Dr. Fisher is referring to passive female solicitation of male sexual response by exposure of their bodies. Though passive in nature female way of dress has to potential to be overtly sexual without direct action. Female way of dress is not just something men see but feel as well. As such female way of dress has the potential to be sexual harrasment of men. It is common conception that women should have no responsibility for the cloths they wear and how it makes men feel or how it affects men personally, emotionally or sexually, though actions of men that are direct or indirect and affect women likewise is classified as harassment. Feminist legitimize female behavior and attempt to define what men find sexually solicitous. They call it "victim blaming". Women shall no longer have the right to define male sexuality.
I hope for a day where women are responsible for how they act toward and treat men, a day when their "choices" come with responsibilities and liabilities and obligations toward and for men as men have toward and for women in our private and public lives, sometimes by law.
I hope that as women now acquire 60% of college degrees and control 60% of the nations wealth, that we should now restore male friendly curriculum models and funding for boys in our public schools. Admission of females to college and in business hirings should no longer be done by "women first" Affirmative Action but on grades and merit so that boys and men will have an equal chance to succeed. I never understood why women have demanded that women be put first in almost every social, political and economic policy I can think of and I hope to convince them to change the laws they made. Men have always given up our seats for women for some reason but I don't know why. We as men must make change socially, politically and economically for our own health and wellbeing and not that of women.
You have all been taught that your lives are less valuable than women and when the time comes it is you that should die so she may live. You have been lied to. The lives, health and wellbeing of women are no more important than your own. We can no longer treat women like children. We must demand they have responsibility and abide by the rules. We must demand that they do so not only for themselves but to have reciprocal obligations toward and for men.
Just filling out my eligibility for employment. This is a tough one. Saying I'm female and black has parsed my resume from the database to the top of the stack and onto the recruiters desk. Such information is not disclosed at that point, just automatically parsed and presented to the recruiter without race and gender information, or so it seems. I've selected "diversity candidate" on my online resume.
It may very well have given me an edge but it could not hurt to say I am a member of a preferred race or gender. It may very well have secured the contract for me so I can find solace in that. I'm afraid that if I say I am male I may not get the job long term when the contract expires especially if a female or person of other skin color were to apply or be on the team.
Should I say I'm black or 1/5th black? Should I tell them I'm female? Can I get away with this? I will just not say anything because I do not know the repercussions. However I know that by doing so I will imply I am male and white and very well may lose my job because of it. I am pained inside. I want to love my country but I do not. I am torn by division toward those who compete against me unfairly and not on merit. I must do what I can.
I am deeply pained by this and have been unemployed sporadically and on unemployment. I know that the Stimulus Package was devoted to women.
I feel bad for my brothers. I feel bad for all men of any race. I feel bad for all of the American people. 80% of all jobs lost in this recession have been to men. I feel resentment building inside of me, I feel the class conflict. I wish my country could be united. I wish that being male did not mean I am ineligible for a job. I wish I were not judged, accepted or rejected by the color of my skin or my gender but by my merit, my hard work and the content of my character.
I remember applying for a government contract and was one of two applicants for a job on Warren Air Force Base. I got there early and was very eager and starving for work. I've had to move in with my brother since work has been dry as of late. I am a contract and temporary IT worker and have been wanting to find stable employment all of my life. I go from contract to contract and job to job with no retirement (401k) or healthcare.
It was hard because I was told I was one of nearly 150 applicants. I made the cut. I was one of two people selected for eligibility. There was another person who made the cut. He walked in and I saw him. As much as I did not want to think of it, I could not help but think of his race and the fact that he was black.
I can not forgive my government for giving him the job based off the color of his skin and denying me the very sustenance I need to feed myself. I live in a country fractured by race and gender. I live in a nation divided, one in which the working class is divided against itself. I live in a country where wages and income for the middle class separated from productivity about 40 years ago (See graph).
With the Stimulus Package being devoted to women upon their request, with Affirmative Action, related laws and policy men can no longer afford to fulfill the social contract that is placed upon us for and toward the benefit of women. My brother is one of those 80% of men who has lost his job, his unemployment is being garnished to support a woman. With 60% of college degrees now being acquired by women, men can no longer compete with women and government while fulfilling our mandated social contract to support women.
Men MUST withdraw, form ranks as a political class and advocate for our welfare. If men can secure our rights and representation or manage to remove gender secular representation in government altogether we will be able to restore our relationship to women and family. MEN MUST BEGIN TO FIGHT FOR THIS! We are being attacked at both ends.
With such a conflict between men and government policy, men can no longer engage in the current social contract with women in an environment in which we are being deliberately disenfranchised from our future prospects of free enterprise and the equal opportunity to produce. Men must withdraw, form ranks and restore individual Liberty, Freedom and Independence in our personal lives and in our personal relationship with women and thus our place in the family.
I agree with Lisa, the reason we should be concerned with other women’s sexuality is because it affects our social position in relation to men. Men gain power with women by getting and producing what we want. Women gain power over men by having and controlling what men want as well. They key difference is that what we seek in men can be taken from them while what they seek in us can not. Even so much as suggesting theft of female assets is met with dire consequences for males.
The goal of feminism is to obtain power and control over the things which we are able to be dependent on men for while creating the options and choices that allow us to depend on men when we want to without explicitly needing them and thus “independence”. This, combined with our sexual barganing power will allow us to dominate and control men in their public lives i.e. on a societal level and in their personal lives and relationships. If we can gain such control men will have no choice but to continue to do what they have always done for us anyway, namely provide resources to us and sacrifice for us and this includes their vary lives. Women will have more choices than ever before and less reciprocal obligation or liabilities to men at the same time... We will be liberated. We now have choices and men do not.
We must do this while asserting strong property rights over our bodies and the bodies of children both pre and post conception. If we can maintain control over the things we are able to get from men while able to do so and gain such resources for ourselves while also having control over sexual property, the property of reproduction and children themselves we will be able to have more social, economic and sexual power than men and thus dominate and control them in entirety.
In essence we will have them under our thumb. Double standards will have to be tolerated because men will have no choice but to woo and court us. Men will have no choice but to meet what ever requirements we demand of them. Likewise "the system" should continue to be harsher upon men in all realms...why...because it can be, and to our benefit. This goes for male health both physical and mental, education, judicial and family law, and even in our personal lives demands and obligations from men to women should be fitting to what women demand. They will continue to pay for us and support us at will and this includes after we leave them in divorce...Why you ask???, because we can and because they have no choice.
Men are terrified of displeasing us and will often times turn upon other men, and government upon men as a class to gain our favor. The white knight is our greatest ally in establishing matriarchy. Males can and will be used against themselves, they are our workhorses and our enforcers. Do not think for a moment that if we voted women into power we could get away with talking like THIS VIDEO (Workhorses of The Matriarchy). We need men to be the workhorses because they will serve our needs and be rewarded for it just as we do in their personal lives.
The whole point is to have men need us more than we need them while at the same time and precisely because of this fact we continue to uphold the laws which establish control over men’s bodies and the fruits of its labor i.e. force them to continue to provide to us and our children outside of marriage and after divorce under threat of jail and in their personal lives while even so much as dating us. The ultimatum, men must produce for us and our children or face the consequences. The male must dance for us. Then and only then can the matriarchy be completed. We are mostly there now. While the male supports us we are free to pursue our next mate and increase our genetic fitness while his resources which would be used to court another female are diverted to us. Men have one shot to please us and if they do not this is their fate.
We have accomplished much if not all of this and have done so by force and blatantly anti-male \ pro female laws.
-We now obtain 60% of college degrees yet have Affirmative Action and Title IX not only in private business hirings, school admissions but also federal contracts.
-We now outlive males by 7 years and they now outpace us in suicides 4 to 1
-Males suffer from health problems, injuries, birth defects and health problems both mental and physical in greater proportion than us yet we commander the majority of funding for healthcare provision and have 7 and now possibly more Federal Offices on our health under the new healthcare bill. Men have zero. Males are also 85% of the homeless.
-We now constitute the majority of the workforce with men only marginally outpacing us in seasonal contract work. While 80% of all jobs lost in The Great Recession have been to men, the Stimulus Package was devoted to women in growing industries upon the request of our women's gender secular leaders in government. We are now adding "women first" provisions to the House Financial Reform Bill See: Subtitle I, Section 1801 of this bill which will further entrench Affirmative Action and women only advocacy in economic and social policy.
-We now constitute the majority of voter participation
-We now are able to obtain Alimony in cases of no-fault divorce
-We now obtain child custody by default and have no liabilities in divorce
-We have no Selective Service draft obligations to serve the country in any capacity in its time of need
-We are independent and self supporting yet socially coerce and lawfully mandate men provide to us even while dating and after divorce.
-We hold all the cards in reproductive rights and absolute control over reproduction.
-We now control 60% of the nations wealth and the majority of gender secular government resources are devoted to us. Male resources flow from men to women in multitudes of proportion than from women to men both in their private and public lives.
-Though the wage gap of 76 cents to the male dollar is the Raw Wage Gap or the disparity of earnings production by measurement of monetary acquisition over the entire labor force and not the same job we are able to convince the public and solidify support for women only and women first legislative policies along with provisions for litigation and lawsuits to control wages and therefore the means of production. We are able to continue women only loans and scholarships as well. We are able to convince the public and private sectors along with society at large to contribute to the wellbeing, support and advocacy for women only.
-We have established complete control over our bodies, the bodies of children and the bodies of men and the fruits of their labor. All of these are transferable to the female and are in whole or in part female property. We are in fact the only gender with property rights over these things.
-We are able to select and use male genes as we see fit without the contribution or requirement of the male by way of sperm bank farms and artificial insemination by way of a simple doctors note and are able to have them sent by mail to our home.
- 40% of all births in the United States are now to single women while males are forced to support us outside of any reciprocal obligation to them while at the same time ostracized from the family and the lives of their children. We initiate 70+% of all divorce and hold no liabilities but choices in the social contract of marriage and thus divorce while the male has none and foots the liability of loss of property and fatherhood.
It remains that what we as women must do is maintain sole control over sex, reproduction and children. We must maintain control over the male body and its mandate to produce and transfer to us the fruits of its labor. We must be supported through our agency in government through gender secular representation, advocacy and laws for women's interests while at the same time keeping male secular gender representation out of government, gender specific university course subject matter, social institutions and organizations of gender advocacy and the social and political dialog. This is easy to do, it is our strength. We control the social fabric. We must use our female strengths to benefit females alone. We must build a multitude of supportive organizations and groups to communally support women and women only in all aspects of society and life needs and in all realms of our health and our health only. We must use the coffers of the public treasury and tax base to support us as well.
I believe we are masters at commandeering the social fabric and the social dialog as well. Under such structure we are able to drown out male voices of objection or advocacy while simultaneously shaming men for speaking up. Females are more important and when the time comes the ultimate proof is that men should and will die so that we may live. The males own lesser power in sexual selection can be used against him. We can and do have him throwing his own under the bus in male-male competition. His chivalry will not stop, it is his instinct.
He knows we hold to the key to reproduction and to pass on his genes he must do what we say. Men are terrified of displeasing or not being useful to us and on a relational level we are able to use emotional volatility and the threat of disengaging from him or not engaging and accepting him in the first place as a tool to supplicate him. He actually prides himself on sacrifice, on the ability to "take it" or "hack it", on the ability and vitality of his strength\health often to it's own neglect in order to produce, to be worthy. We shall not help him in this but let him sacrifice, let his health suffer for us. He does this to be of external utility, to be of use to us and we should make him, we should let him and under law and social custom coerce and force him. We shall not nurture this supplicated being who vies for competitive advantage, vies to produce and provide, vies to protect and please and all for our very acceptance alone.
Remember for the vast majority it is females who control and end relationships. In terms of liabilities, we have none, we have all the power. We must continue to empower ourselves. Marriage as it is now under our rule is a liability and obligation from a man to a woman and although marriage is on a drastic decline we still have men getting on their knees with gold and jewels for the opportunity to mate and have children that they have no right to. We have them getting on their knees to allow us choices to work or stay home, to marry or divorce with no obligation or responsibility but our inherent fertile value our female selective choice.
We have hoodwinked men and society into believing that it is we who are oppressed and we who do not have choices. We have them believing that men are in control when they are in fact our workhorses. Since we are and will establish control by the use of chivalrous legislative mandate, since we rule The New Economy yet will not give men the choices they have given us, since we have control over the social relationship and contracts of dating and marriage, since we hold the keys and control over reproduction and conception and sex itself we will rule over men in the matriarchy, we will live in a world of possibilities and subjugation over men that is hardly imaginable. It is happening and it is here and now, it is real and it will be worse upon him than he could have ever possibly dreamed. It already is.
Remember, the personal is political. We have the ability to use male chivalry which is personified in government against men. Our male workhorses in government will do anything for the female majority vote. We control them and government will continue to seek our acceptance, it will court us as you have seen in the video I linked above. It will not stop with women only and women first laws. Secular and separatist representation within government by gender is the key. We have been quite successful at this. In the years to come female secular laws and implementation of power will be consolidated and the matriarchy complete. We are almost there.
I can say that males are becoming aware of their subjugation to us but we must remember that as they are in competition with each other and most importantly in competition with each other for external utility in a very real political, economic and social sense they are a class divided. They do not contain inherent value to us as we do to them. We hold the key. They will not and can not coalesce into a force of advocacy for their own protection and provision and in fact will come to our aid to gain power over each other. They will die and help us and not their own. It is his nature and it is now his fate. It is not us that will advocate for him as well, we are entirely consummate.
The single greatest threat to us now is to keep him producing, to keep him under the false cognition that he is enfranchised and in control. We must keep his productive incentive and capacity up no matter how disenfranchised he has become. We must push him to his limits. We must turn him against himself to do this. We must continually empower him with reward and lawfully mandated punishment to serve our needs. This will not be hard, it is his instinct and nature. Again, he is a class divided and we are not. We must convince him that we are in danger and that it is he himself that is a threat to our wellbeing. In doing so, in creating the males false perception of his genders station in relation to us we will convince him to turn on his own and allocate ever more protection and provision to us. We must call upon his instincts and biological imperatives. Remember, he will die for this.
Will we achieve these ends...yes, we already are...it is our destiny and the will of evil itself. A death that does not give back to life, an all consummate darkness that is easy not hard, that is deception not truth. We are his weakness, it is we that can destroy him.
These things will always be the key to domination over men politically, economically and socially. Independence (dis-need) and Liberation is the key! Women I call upon you to free yourselves, let it become you and you will see the power, you will feel it. Empower and liberate yourselves, you do not need him, become free from him and not bonded.
He has been hiding these things from you, he has been taking the power for his own and oppressing you, take it back, it is yours to have and you are owed a debt from him, take him, your are his weakness. In doing so you will overcome and become his being and his essence, everything he promised he is to you and for you, seize him and that which was supposed to be his complimentary form to you but was done for himself. Starve him of nurturing sustenance and do not tend to his wounds. Tend to yourselves to stave off his oppression.
Take from him what all along was and is his selfishness. Throughout history he has made you bear the most pain, the most death, the danger, the most subjugation and most of the suffering, risk, toil and used his complimentary nature and strength to dominate, control and oppress you and not to serve you. He did these things to himself as well and not to serve you but to control and oppress you.
Look now what he does and why he earns. Look now upon what he controls. Watch carefully where the fruits of his labor go. Watch him feast upon his spoils for himself and himself alone. It is not to provide what you demand from him, but to obtain what he is supposed to give you, what was and is rightfully yours. He does this to control you, it is to oppress you.
Do this and you can and will destroy him for what he has done. He will pay for his subjugation and oppression of you. Put yourself first and do it by law. Compete against him and you will win. Use his complimentary nature to you against himself. He will devour himself from within for you. He will put you first, it is his nature.
Take him and the world will be yours. The descent of man will be glorious and a magnificent triumph, do this and you will be free from him. The desire in you is there, can you sense it, can you taste it, do you know why it is there? It has been building in you from his neglect and his selfishness. The fruit is now ripe, it is yours and it should have been yours all along. Take it, taste it, become all consummate of him and all powerful you shall become.
She States "But in some cases, this historic gender shift does look like a war, or at least a stand-off. The major change in the working class is that women are not getting married at all, judging men to be unsuitable partners."
So here is my take on it.....
I have no problem that women are hypergamous and therefore see males that produce less than them as inadequate mates.
What I do have a problem with is that women expect men to contribute to their welfare and that of their offspring in this new order. What is ubiquitous to all matriarchal social structures is the lack of male paternal investment in offspring i.e. females are on their own.
So it should be expected that as women are now a separate socio-political and socio-economic class, they are now in direct competition with men and our adversary. I don't mind competing against women for resources either, I just wish women didn't do so unfairly with Affirmative Action, Title IX, devoting the Stimulus Package to themselves (See Article: No Country For Burly Men by Christina Hoff Sommers) and every other "women first" legislation.
I wish women were independent and self supporting. Even when women date they need men to provide to them because they don't seem to feel the need to support themselves. This holds true for divorce.
I look forward to the day when women can support themselves. Like I said I rather enjoy being single. I was born at just the right time because when I was a little younger I banged all the cougars and M.I.L.Fs and now that I'm older I bang all the young women with no obligation to them or any prospective children that could be produced what so ever (I have no right to paternal investment in my offspring by law anyway)
It needs to be made clear to women that the family and marriage is dead and that women should support themselves and their own children.
Furthermore don't be so myopic lady, males AT ALL LEVELS OF EDUCTION AND RESOURCE ACQUISITION are turning away from marriage to women as well.
The situation is dually compounding. We are in diametric opposition, women have made that perfectly clear. I hate to interrupt your victory dance ladies but this is a long dark road we are heading down.
As such, you should know that historically matriarchies do not survive very long and are quite stagnant. They have always been out produced in birth rates i.e population wise as well as technologically.
I expect that China and Muslim cultures will overrun western female matriarchal societies in no time at all. One need only view the demographic information on Muslim culture alone to recognize the trend very clearly.
The factors in play that have lead women to dominate the workforce are not by some sort of divine providence but in fact is a result of governmental policy, globalization and outright gender secular laws and legislation against men. This is how we arrived at an unsound service sector based economy where 72% of GDP is derived from consumer consumption. An economy that has been propped up by debt I might add. So I do understand that women see our new reality as a victory but the social, political and economic consequences are only just beginning.
Wow, Harvard turns out smart women amid the feminist hegemony after all. Harvard has suffered some heavy losses and the exile of it's president by women's leaders who were offended by a reference to gender dimorphic data. They were so offended that there might be differences between men and women that that the women of Harvard used $50,000,000 to hire and promote women only. Isn't this so ironic in comparison to what these people claim to stand for?
The war against men and boys has gained pace in recent years. We must continue to fight! We must defend ourselves from women's leaders at all costs!!!!!!!
Presenting Professor Ruth Wisse of Harvard University with a special thanks to Erin Pizzey for sharing Ruth's thoughts on the matter and for hosting this on her website.
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"Women’s Liberation, if not the most extreme, then certainly the most influential neo-Marxist movement in America, has done to the American home what communism did to the Russian economy, and most of the ruin is irreversible. By defining between men and women in terms of power and competition instead of reciprocity and co-operation, the movement tore apart the most basic and fragile contract in human society, the unit from which all other social institutions draw their strength."
I believe that we stand on an abyss in the last two years of this dark century. Those of us that believe that the family is the cornerstone of any civilisation are embattled with feminist forces that seek to destroy the role of men in the lives of women and children. In 1971 I opened the doors of the first shelter for victims of domestic violence in the world. Men, women and children came to my door. The feminist movement, hungry for funds and public recognition, hi-jacked my movement and turned it into a war against men.
I recognised that children born into violent and dysfunctional families were most likely to grow up into violent and dysfunctional adults. I realised that both men and women who were not able to make harmonious and loving relationships needed help.
The feminist movement’s agenda was to declare all men as potential rapists and batterers. Under cover of the shelter movement which gave them funding and accommodation to wage their gender war against men, they began to disseminate misleading information. Legislation against fathers was put into place and family courts became hostile to men.
Horrified by these atrocities, I travelled to America and tried to make my views known. NOW issued an edict warning all NOW groups to ignore my arrival. A film of my work (the first film on domestic violence in the world), was fronted against my wishes by Gloria Steinem thus putting the film into the feminist camp. My book ‘SCREAM QUIETLY OR THE NEIGHBOURS WILL HEAR,’ was plagiarised by a feminist writer and her book became the feminist bible on domestic violence. The poison spread throughout the country and the media also became hostile to the traditional family and fathers.
Over the last thirty years people in the western world bowed meekly to the savage onslaught meted out by this hate-crazed movement. Feminists declared a ‘gender war,’ against men. This war, bolstered by legislation, ignored the reality of domestic violence and insisted that only men were perpetrators of violence against women.
The suffering of men who are physically and sexually abused and stripped of their right to have access to their children goes largely unnoticed. In the future, new legislation must recognise that a traditional family, the biological mother and father living under one roof with their children, offers those children the best possible chance of becoming healthy, loving, law abiding adults.
Those women who love their husbands, partners and sons must join with the men’s movement in seeing that anti male legislation never gets passed. This is our last chance to right a horrendous wrong. Millions of men and their children have suffered in the hands of this evil feminist movement. The time has come for men and women to say "NO" to feminism.
"It is rarely noted that the financial wreckage littering our world is the creation, almost exclusively, of men, not women" - TIME MAGAZINE
Saying that women, i.e. our competitors and adversaries are not responsible for financial decisions is to treat this separate socio-political\socio-economic class as if they are children... We must remember that it is women after all that took out the vast majority of sub prime loans which caused the system to collapse.
Women hate to take risks and sub primes obscured the reality that women were getting us into.
We must remember that women hold the majority of debt obligations and make around 70-80% of all consumer purchases. Women have an insatiable appetite for material resources. Given the opportunity they will direct resources or the means of enfranchisement to procure resources away from others and toward themselves. Women actually create legislation that puts them first before all others.
Given unfettered access to the public treasury women will pamper, provide and protect themselves to our demise. There is no limit to the entitlements women demand and are willing to accept from men or government. Women see themselves as inherently worthy of resources, in fact they demand them from men and government in their private and public lives. They see themselves as inherently valuable. Imagine for a moment the character that would become an individual if their ability to manipulate and illicit others to provide to them was a primary and viable means of survival.
Independence is a foreign word for women. They can not and will not stop depending on men and government to put them on a pedestal. We must remember that they will always look to men and government to be dependent on. We must remember that female representation in government is rife with gynocentric consummation.
Freedom is a foreign word to women as it is the result of Independence and Liberty which women are incapable of pursuing on their own. Men are born with the necessity to hold these values because we are the only sex that ends up sleeping under a bridge if we do not.
Unlike women, men do not create special laws and "men first" policies to the exclusion of women. I think deep down women know that in order to compete against men they MUST exclude men from the competition altogether or illicit some type of provisional or protective response from men or government. However, this will not stop them from demanding resources from men in their personal lives.
Women have been remarkably successful when exercising their agency in government and in all realms of public, economic, social and family policy. They are quick to play the victim and call for male or government aid when it suits them.
They are actually using the weak moments of our nation against us, against men particularly. Their leaders are attempting to add more "women first" provisions into the House Financial Reform Bill. See: Subtitle I, Section 1801 of this bill. We are speaking of a creature who already devoted the Stimulus Package to herself.
We know that this is the way women think. Given direct access to the public treasury they will always take for themselves to the exclusion of men. They do this in all emergencies. In a physical emergency women see themselves as more valuable. They will actually see to it that men die so that they may live. When the ship is sinking it is women who shriek the loudest to be saved above and before all others.
They have done no different during these dire times and they do no different in the practice of their political ethos. We must remember that a woman's life is for herself, her "responsibilities" and "obligations" are what women call "choices." Remember, it is the responsibility and obligations of others that create women's "choices".
"Any society that would give up a little liberty to gain a little security will deserve neither and lose both." -=Benjamin Franklin=--
You see, it is men who speak as Franklin did. It is men who hold the beliefs in our founding values. Can you imagine a woman saying the above? Women love security and will trade Independence, Liberty and Freedom of others and then themselves to achieve it. Women would have never forged the foundation our nation was built on.
You see, women are not so kind, not so protective or provisional to men. Women are more so a liability. Given proper agency women will actually consume male agency, not enable it.
We must remember that women do not and have never created sovereign territories and resources we call countries, men do. We must remember that women will not be so kind to us. We must remember that Women are incapable of devoting resources to males at all. We must remember females are ENTIRELY CONSUMMATE when it comes to material provision.
It would be quite foolish to believe females will ever give men the choices they have given themselves. It would be quite foolish to continue the gender war as women have. Do not think for a second women are as kind to men. Do not think for a second that women could build a strong and prosperous nation in regard to productive capacity and incentive to produce. Given the ultimatum women WILL ALWAYS turn to the aid of men and government rather than produce for themselves. They do so because they can.
I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them" -=President Thomas Jefferson=-
You see, it is men who speak like Jefferson did. It is men who hold beliefs in our founding values. Women on the other hand not only seek to be taken care of, they seek to be taken care of first, above, before and to the exclusion of others. They simply feel entitled to this, it is their nature. They are incapable of caring for themselves. If a man has made the grave mistake of actually committing through marriage to a woman yet is no longer a part of her family, if he fails to financially support and care for her he is placed inside of a jail cage. Women have no concept of Independence. Remember, marriage is an obligation from a man to a woman, women have no obligations during or after marriage, women have what they call "choices".
I don't blame them for what they are but by no means should women have such gender secular representation in government. By no means should women EVER be given control over the distribution of resources. We have all been witness to their insatiable nature when they are given authority over such things. Believe me when I tell you that she will not stop this. Again, it is her nature.
Women are not and will never be the bread and butter of a nations productive capacity. If we believe the lies and manipulation of women and their leaders, they will destroy us.
Remember that women have an incredible ability to manipulate or illicit desired responses from others, especially men. They can even obfuscate their own prosperity and make it appear as oppression. Remember, women and their leaders DO NOT believe in equal representation by gender, race or religion under law as our founding principals are built upon.
A true humanitarian, Phyllis Schlafly, the wise and gutsy old woman that she is, comes to the aid of her countrymen (Article at bottom of this post). Thank you Phyllis, you are a kind soul to care for and advocate for the wellbeing and protection of men and boys. Advocacy for men and boys is mainly unheard of. Phyllis, your steadfast commitment to our country is truly exemplary.
I really believe that it will mainly be up to women to change the rules of their own protection, men just don't have the power to advocate for our welfare. When advocacy and action upon the welfare of men is related to or perceived to be related to the welfare of women, men will lose, women come first without exception. The welfare and wellbeing of women is more important than that of men..everyone knows that. When it comes to separate and secular representation by gender within government, women's advocacy groups have all the power. For what ever reason male advocacy just can not compete. Males in comparison simply don't matter.
Though men suffer from poorer health we have not been able to get women to share one of the 7 Federal Offices on women's health with men. They say that women need all the resources, protection and provision. I think women expect men to die rather than render aid to us...Isn't that strange? I don't know why men are less valuable than women but such is our plight I guess. Such is the male condition, it always has been.
I guess the only difference is that we were able to dictate our own terms of how we and government were servants to women. Now, with their representation in government they dictate the terms of our servitude.
We do try, no one can say that we do not try but whenever men lobby for equal protection under law, women say that giving men equal rights and protections comes at the expense of protecting women and that women should come first before men. Women always win in this argument and so we as men must continue to suffer. I think we really do believe that women's welfare and wellbeing should come before our own. Women are more than happy to benefit from male suffering. They actually see it as our rightful place...as chivalry.
I feel that it may be the case that it will always be "women first" and that women somehow innately feel entitled to provision, protection and resources, Isn't that strange? For some reason I get the feeling that men may feel that women deserve unequal representation under law as well.. Isn't that strange???
I have the feeling women don't hold the same values as men when it comes to our welfare. I don't know if they have the same feelings toward men as men do for women.
I fear that men simply can not compete with women when it comes to such things. I fear we will never be as powerful as women and that we will never be able to change this. The forces involved in giving women such insane protections at male expense must be a biological part of human nature. I can't figure out any other reason why it could have gotten this far otherwise. I don't understand why women are put first to the detriment, welfare and wellbeing of men.. I can't understand...I just don't understand.
Why did this all start when women gained agency in our government? Why do women use their representation in government to provide and protect themselves? Why do we deffer to women and why are they more powerful? Why don't females in government ever advocate for men as men do for women????? Why don't men advocate for men as men do for women?
I can only hope that someday, men and boys will be treated fairly and that our wellbeing and protection is just as important as a woman's. I truly believe that when men suffer women and society suffer along with us.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Article: A Good Father's Day Gift by Phyllis Schlafly
A good Father's Day gift would be to reform the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), make it gender-neutral, and assure men that family courts will accord them constitutional rights equivalent to those enjoyed by murderers and robbers. VAWA will be coming up for its five-year reauthorization later this year, and that will be the time to hold balanced hearings and eliminate VAWA's discrimination against men.
VAWA illustrates the hypocrisy of noisy feminist demands that we kowtow to their ideology of gender neutrality, to their claim that there is no difference between male and female, and to their opposition to stereotyping and gender profiling. VAWA is based on the proposition that there are, indeed, innate gender differences: Men are naturally batterers, and women are naturally victims.
Feminist supporters of VAWA obviously share Jessica Valenti's recent assertion in The Washington Post that American women are oppressed by the "patriarchy" and that "it needs to end." One way they hope to end it is by using the extravagantly expensive and discriminatory VAWA, which was passed in 1994 as a payoff to the feminists for helping to elect Bill Clinton president in 1992. VAWA is not designed to eliminate or punish violence, but to punish only alleged violence against women. Most of the shelters financed by VAWA do not accept men as victims.
VAWA has been known from the get-go as "feminist pork" because it puts nearly $1 billion a year of U.S. taxpayers' money into the hands of the radical feminists without any accountability for how the money is spent. Feminists have set up shop in shelters where they promote divorce, marriage breakup, hatred of men and false accusations, while rejecting marriage counseling, reconciliation, drug-abuse treatment and evidence of mutual-partner abuse.
Feminists have changed state laws to include a loosey-goosey definition of family violence. It doesn't have to be violent -- it can simply be what a man says or how he looks at a woman.
Domestic violence can even be what a woman thinks a man might do or say. Definitions of violence include calling your partner a naughty word, raising your voice, causing "annoyance" or "emotional distress," or just not doing what your partner wants.
VAWA makes taxpayers' money available to the feminists to lobby state legislators to pass feminist laws, to train law enforcement personnel and judges in using those laws, and to fund their enforcement. VAWA provides women with free legal counsel to pursue their allegations while men are left on their own to find and pay a lawyer, or struggle without one.
Feminists have lobbied most states to adopt mandatory-arrest laws, which means that when the police arrive at a disturbance and lack good information on who is to blame, they are nevertheless legally bound to arrest somebody. Three guesses who is usually arrested.
Feminists have lobbied most states to pass no-drop prosecution laws, which require proceeding with prosecution even if the woman recants her charges or wants to drop them. Studies show that women do recant or ask to drop the charges in 60 percent of criminal allegations, but the law requires the man to be prosecuted anyway, which means he loses his constitutional right to confront his accuser.
Charging domestic violence practically guarantees that a woman will get custody of the children and sever forever the father's relationship with his children even though the alleged violence had nothing whatever to do with any abuse of the children. Judges are required to consider allegations of domestic violence in awarding child custody, even though no evidence of abuse was ever presented or proven.
I received a letter from a feminist the other day who tried to convince me that matriarchy was the way to go in her own "natural" way and essentially that males are not needed.
Here are excerpts from her letter with translation into femspeak in parentheses:
"Bonobos are as close to humans as chimps. They are female dominated and peaceful."
Femspeak: (If women had authority over males we would take care of males like you have taken care of us....We promise we will let you stay home and don't have to produce anything while you take care of the children. We promise that you are valued and approachable and worthy of mating with females for the simple fact that you exist as females are to males : ) If females rule over you, territory and resources there will be no war, females will bring everlasting peace to the planet, just give us complete control of all the territory and resources you males compete for and acquire and you will see that matriarchy is bliss for males. Males are not needed by females for anything nor as part of the family and the lives of their children.)
"female bonobos are skilled hunters."
Femspeak: (Female bonobos don't need a man and are strong independent bonobo ladies)
"Ants are a female dominated. The worker and soldier aunts are female. Males are only born at certain times of the year. Their only role is to mate with the queens of other ant colonies. They die shortly after mating."
Femspeak: (Ants are colonies consisting of strong independent ladies who don't need men, in fact all the males are good for is their sperm and then, naturally, they have no place in the family, the lives of their offspring or society and should die.)
"here is a video of a mother grizzly attacking a male bear TWICE who threatened her cubs. She drove him away both times"
Femspeak: (Males are violent and dangerous to women and children and should be driven away or held at bay by force if necessary and or the law)
"you might want to check out the female dominated animals like elephants, whales, wolves and hyenaes."
Femspeak: (It's not just lower life form families and society that males are not needed in but also larger life forms)
Orcas: "Female dominated orcas are skilled hunters"
Femspeak: (female orcas are strong independent ladies that don't need a man)
Wolves: "In one wolf pack, a female wolf led an attack on her FATHER, killed him, and took over the pack."
Femspeak: (This event stuck out in my mind when I watched a show on wolves about a year ago on the Discovery Channel because I have issues with my father and male figures in my life which most likely took place in my early childhood development. Due to our current pseudo-matriarchal social construct it is likely that I didn't have a father in my life at all and have a resentment toward him because of this... Though as statistics show it is most likely my mother who kicked him out of the home and isolated me from any type of meaningful contact with him. It is also possible that one of the many unrelated males that passed in and out of my mothers home over the years copulated with me but at very least my mother and thus I see males and the role of husband and father as walking disposable sperm donors)
"Hyenaes are female dominated. Male hyenas act submissive. Hyenas are female rule ALWAYS."
Femspeak: (The rightful place of males is to ruled by females and what females say GOES..PERIOD)
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- So as you can see, what we have here is the classic feminist who is advocating several things,
#1 that females are supposed to rule over the family, which in all cases sited (besides the wolves which she mistakenly believe to be female dominated) does not need to include the male who sired the offspring i.e. husband and father as part of the family, society or the lives of his children.
#2 females don't need males and are independent ladies
So lets dig a little deeper into the ideal world of the feminist. I'd like to make it quite clear that anytime you find female led social structures you will not find male paternal investment in offspring and that this is the one differentiating factor between a matriarchy and a patriarchy.
Lets take a closer look at the animals she mentioned whos social groups were female dominated i.e. the male who sired the offspring is not present in the family.
Upon investigation you will find that males in these matriarchal (female led or dominated social structures) share one or more common characteristics
#1 They may never leave their mothers home or group and have no parental investment in their offspring.
#2 They may venture out to mate and then return to mother or venture out to be solitary creatures while having no membership to any family or group, no parental investment in their offspring.
#3 or they may form all male bachelor groups. Of all three of these scenarios these males give no paternal investment to their offspring.
Elephants:
Elephants live in a structured social order. The social lives of male and female elephants are very different. The females spend their entire lives in tightly knit family groups made up of mothers, daughters, sisters, and aunts. These groups are led by the eldest female, or matriarch. Adult males, on the other hand, live mostly solitary lives.
Orcas:
Killer whale societies are based on matrilines consisting of the matriarch and her descendants who form part of the line, as do their descendants. The average size of a matriline is 5.5 animals. Males venture outside of the pod to mate and then return to the matrifocal group. They have no paternal investment in their offspring.
Hyenas:
Spotted Hyenas have a matriarchal social structure the male hyena provides no assistance in rearing the cubs.
Bonobo apes: Males are tolerant of infants and juveniles. A male's status is derived from the status of his mother. The mother-son bond often stays strong and continues throughout life.
Wolves: Normally, the pack consists of a male, a female, and their offspring, essentially making the pack a nuclear family. Wolf males are part of the family, are not a matriarchy or matrifocal and contribute to the wellbeing of such much as a husband or father would in a human family.
So what variables are we able to distinguish when matriarchies or female led social structures are are found. One thing I can assure you of is that lack of male paternal investment in offspring is ubiquitous to all matriarchies.
SO HERE IS WHAT I WANT YOU TO KNOW MS. FEMINIST. MEN ARE QUITE AWARE OF YOUR DESIRES FOR MATRIARCHY.
I can say that humans in my country are moving toward matriarchy at the moment as females have decided to "liberate" themselves and be "independent". By definition this means that males are no longer a part of the family and are not needed to support offspring like you are so adamant about proving to me. We understand that by your representation in government you have created laws which make male necessity to the mated pair bond a choice solely arbitrated by the power of the female. As such males are now an optional accessory to the family.
We know that resource provision to the female and "her" offspring are now mandatory under penalty of prison and with out any breach of contract necessary through female instituted no-fault laws. We understand that once married the male body and the fruits of it's labor are your property and that your body and the fruits of its labor are your property as well. You should know that human males are getting the message quite clear and are withdrawing support and commitment to both females and "her" offspring and increasingly abstaining from marriage all together. This is phenomena I've proven with objective graphs and data throughout my blog.
This is quite natural in a matriarchy so do not fret or call men "dead beats" when you request they support a female that is not a part of his family and offspring he is only allowed to "visit" and furthermore while he has no meaningful role in your family.
In a matriarchy males simply distribute their sperm with no paternal investment. The requirements and prerequisites of matriarchy are as follows...
(a)If females will let this happen in the first place and do not require male paternal investment for themselves or their offspring to survive and thus decide to mate outside of committed mated pair bonds. As such it is important to note that female "Sexual Liberation" took place in the U.S. about 40 years ago during the American Cultural Revolution and females now mate outside of committed mated pair bonds. Females behave this way only when the requisite resource support and protection prospects are available to her without a male mate. As a result 40% of all births in the U.S. are now to single females. So it appears that
(a) is true. "(But what we must examine is where these resources and protection come from and how they are procured by her)
The other factor of matriarchal social structures include
(b)the female and offspring will be fine without male investment.
Now here is the clincher and one of the MAJOR premises behind Men's and Father's Rights:
These factors are supposed to be true in the matriarchy which females have sought to build in this country but unlike all known matriarchies in nature it is only so on the surface but not in practice, not in reality.
In reality male investment is needed or supposedly needed though females are "liberated" and "independent" but this matriarchal family is accomplished in a false fashion in which the male is forced to financially support the female and what she sees as "her" offspring or he will be placed inside of a cage called a jail cage as punishment until he has suffered enough pain and isolation (more than he would in his empty apartment) and decides to take the option of less pain i.e. he again begins to produce and sends money to the female from afar by force of law in order to suit the whims of the pseudo-matriarchal paradigm that the female brain trust called feminism came up with.
So in actuality we don't have a true matriarchal construct but instead live in a pseudo-matriarchy or false matriarchy at the expense and oppression of human males. The human male condition under matriarchy is absolutely deplorable.
Human females changed the laws in the United States in the 1970s to create what females call No-Fault divorce or the ability to leave a male, cast him out of the family and force him to still provide to the female and what is seen as "her" child by force. No breach of the marriage contract by the male is needed in order to make him submit to this humiliating position of "Isolated Resource Producing Male" while having no role in her family.
So yes, Ms. Feminist, you are correct there are matriarchies and matrifocal societies and groups in nature but the defining factor is whether males are needed for paternal investment or not needed.
In human society in the United States females have decided that males are no longer needed, (at least physically) in the home or the family in order that they can have their ideal matriarchal family i.e. accomplish the ideal of having no male present in the family while making him support said family.
You see Ms. Feminist, a major goal of Men's and Father's Rights is either:
#1 claim shared contact or shared custody of our offspring and thus the right to paternal investment without our honorable role of father turned into monetary support and sent to you from a distance.
or
#2 to be able to withdraw from any contact or forced support to the female and "her" offspring and simply be left the fuck alone.
or
#3 create some sort of mutual obligation and liability to the female so that marriage is a mutually consummate and obligatory bond which entails mutual liabilities and responsibility.
As is current males are forced into an existence under a pseudo or false matriarchy and are fighting to get out of this deplorable, unnatural and unjust condition that females have subjected us to so that they may have their "choices" or "a womans choice" of having a male in the family or not having a male present with absolutely no consequence or responsibility on her part to accomplish these ends.
If your goal is matriarchy this is fine. Men are more than happy to let you be "independent" and "liberated" from needing us but please stop abusing men, our bodies and the fruits of our labor to do it. So for god sake already...... support yourselves like all the known matriarchies and matrifocal animal societies in nature of which you so exalted to me in your letter.
Now, Let's get it OVER WITH ALREADY. It's getting ridiculous. When are you going to be independent and liberated like you promised??? When can we get this whole matriarchy of which you so delightedly wrote to me about accomplished..when? When will you leave men that are not apart of your family ALONE and solitary like the matriarchal males or take care of and live with your sons for life like the matriarchal mothers do? When will you insist that men have the same freedoms and choices that you do? When will you realize that your independence and liberation are currently financed at the males expense and that we resent you and do not respect you for this..when?
Dear oh dear where are all the good men? There are no good men left in the world! Where have they all gone? Wow, you know things are getting bad when women start to wear the questions they have on their shirt!
Funny you have been shaming men with such language for about the last 20 or so years. I seem to remember these two cultural memes i.e. "there are no good men" and "men are afraid of commitment" since the early 90's.
I find it strange that women have failed to look in the mirror and ask "am I a good woman"? Am I worthy of commitment from men? Is it really true what they reduce men to in my Cosmo magazine? Is it true that "all men want is sex" and they are satisfied?
Are men really simple and easy to please as they say? How have things changed since the times when men were jumping over each other to commit to women? Has commitment, displays of chivalry and courtship wained away in men? Is it true? This brings to mind another meme of social culture that has sprung to life in the public consciousness over the last decade or so...."chivalry is dead"...
So what is it that has caused the divide between men and women, what has put us in polar opposition? The focus has been on men since this all began, do you think women will ever look inward and ask if it is something they have done or do you think they will continue to blame and shame men? Fascinating how good women are at bringing their needs to the forefront of the social fabric. You really do ladies, you dominate the crap out of the societal dialog.
Shhhhhhh Shhhhh stop chatting in your magazines and on Opera etc etc... Quiet please quiet..quiet down ladies...chat chat chat....chat chat chat...shhhh shhhh.
Ok here we go......
Women really are gifted at commandeering the social fabric and societal dialog, men are very quiet about what we feel and think about this whole thing though our thoughts and feelings sure do show up in our actions, we just aren't chatty about why we do what we do. Men are starting to talk now and want to bring things to the table for discussion. Outside the internet it takes a special woman to find out what men are thinking. Here, in the blogosphere where it's safe, men have some things to say if your willing to listen..So here is what you have to say.....
"Where are all the good men" "Men are afraid of commitment" "Chivalry is dead"
These are all definitive socio-cultural memes that have come to life in our culture. Did you know that these social issues did not always exist? Did you know that this all began about 40 years ago?
Read on ladies, read on. Welcome! Welcome to the place where men feel safe from judgement! Welcome to the place where we can critisise you and you will not be able to shame our mouths shut with your fragile male ego insults etc. Welcome to the place on the internet where men talk about and say what we are really thinking and feeling!!! These things you HAVE NEVER HEARD BEFORE ABOUT THE MALE EXPERIENCE,isn't that exciting!
Here in the nether regions of the internet, where no one will know who we are, we share our thoughts and feelings about you. Here I give you gold ladies! I give you the dark corners of the blogosphere where men talk about our frustrations, our hopes our dreams our helplessness our vulnerabilities, our anger, our pain, our suffering, our thoughts and our feelings....Here we say things we don't dare say elsewhere yet shows through in our actions in the real world. Here....in the blogosphere you will find valuable insight into the answers to the questions above that have become so prevalent that virtually everyone in America knows them.....
Do you think you have what it takes to put YOUR ego away and really listen to what men have to say??? Do you think you can listen without getting defensive? Do you think you can listen without resorting to putting the blame back on men? I wonder if you really are as interested and gifted at relationships as you think. Woman can do no wrong yes? It's men who are not good listeners yes? Here in the internet underground where it's safe from your shaming, men will talk. Here, in the quiet, away from the social cultural dialog you dominate the crap out of men are talking. I don't know if you have what it takes. Men speak here in the blogosphere ladies, men give you the answers you have always wanted to know. Do you have the guts to listen???
Stick around a while, I give you a warm welcome ladies. Put on your comfy socks, grab a nice hot cup of coffee or your favorite tea and explore with me, explore with us the MRA. We are not big bad men but some of us are very expressive..can you handle it? Don't worry, men now a days may be fiercely independent from you now and keep our distance from you but we don't hate you. Though there are men who do, deep down I venture to say that even they want to like you and feel....only if they could.......
Well as you may know the vast majority of people who end up homeless are men. The vast majority of health issues plague men. You really wouldn't know it because the only health advocacy you will see in our culture is for women. Men for some reason feel inclined to provide for and protect women and women for some reason feel inclined to provide, protect and pamper themselves. They really do expect to come first and this goes for a state of emergency as well.
Can you imagine if the social code was "men first"??? Why couldn't it be? How is it that women have "choices" and men do not? How is it that men are not allowed to be considered or even put first? Is chivalry really now dead? Maybe anti chivalry sentiment is growing in the hearts of men, but no, chivalry or women insisting that they are first is not dead by a long shot.
In a time of imminent danger women expect men to die for them. Isn't that strange. What is it exactly that makes women of value? What are women expected to do for men? Please can someone tell me what women are supposed to do for men??? I'm not talking about "choices" but obligations. Can someone tell me what obligations women have for and toward men?
Women actually have 7 Federal Offices on their health. It blew my mind to hear that President Obama's Council On Women and Girls wanted 3 more Federal Offices for women's health added to the healthcare reform package. I was hoping that since men have no gender secular advocacy within the Federal government that maybe The Council On Women and Girls would ask for an Office of Health for men. I've always found it strange that the dynamics between the sexes plays itself out in women's relationship with the government. The government will provide and protect women. I think women love the government so much because they actually have secular representation to tell the government just how they want it to provide and protect them.
It makes me think of the very different forms of government that men and women have in mind for themselves.
Benjamin Franklin once said: "Any society that would give up a little liberty to gain a little security will deserve neither and lose both." Can anyone imagine women saying this? I can tell you that women hold the majority vote now and this is now their government.
Think hard about this one, have you noticed that women are willing to trade the Liberty of men for her own security, particularly in regard to the divorce laws women created in the 70's for Marriage 2.0?
CAN YOU IMAGINE IF POLITICIANS CATERED TO MEN LIKE THIS EVEN IF IT WAS AT THE EXPENSE OF WOMEN. I want you to do me a favor. Every time these men in the video below use the word "women" replace it with "men" and every time they use the word "men" replace it with "women". Pause the video if you have to. Watch it several times if you have to as it's loaded with good information.
Also while you do this I want you to observe their mannerisms, the winks, the lip licking of Obama toward the women when he debases and defiles men with a joke against men. Watch closely for the anticipatory lip lick just after Obama throws men under the bus with his joke. Watch closely in the opening scene of Obama's segment and you will see him give a special wink while he satiates himself with female approval.
I watch the discovery channel a lot and you may not realize it but body language speaks volumes..Obama is actually attempting to court the females, he wants their approval more so than anything else, all of these men do.
Could you imagine if men had this much representation and advocacy for our wellbeing in government! WOW!
Think very hard about this one....Exchange the politicians in the video above and pretend they are female politicians, could you imagine her catering to and advocating for men like this??? Could you see her winking at the men and going so far as to make jokes at women's expense? Could you see her calling this a chauvinist society (anti-man) and advocate that the money should not be used to create jobs for women but rather given to men and minorities, to in fact make economic decisions based on race and gender?
Government actually courts females. Given no restraint from this the system becomes gynocentric, matrifocal and matriarchal very quickly and at the expense of men.
Anyway, on average men are in poorer health than women and now die 7 years earlier than women. It sure is a shame. I've always been surprised that when working safety standards were lowered for our working men in industry by the Federal government that no one said a thing.. Isn't that strange? The men in the Virgina mine did in fact complain that they did not have enough air to breath. They complained that explosive gases were building in pockets while they were hoveled down in their filthy holes digging up the raw resources that power civilization.
I realize now that ALL raw resources come from men and that 98% of all on the job deaths are of men in working industry. I'm looking at everything around me right now and realize that everything around me was procured from the earth by men, these men.
Isn't it strange how the wives of these men don't gather in the streets with signs advocating for "safety standards for our working men"? Do you know how much more powerful that is than men advocating for protection and provision? Why don't women take care of men in any way?
Men are more subservient to women than anyone likes to admit. Put in feminist terms, men are more oppressed by women than anyone likes to admit. Though I do not frame it in feminist terms for a reason....it is because feminism, (which has become the dominant female mind set) wants to liberate men and women from bondage, servitude and dependence on each other, feminists want to destroy our sacred and complimentary bond. THEY HAVE DONE ENOUGH DAMAGE!
Isn't it strange how much men understand that our value to women and society is by what we produce and our pride in our ability to take pain and suffering to do it? Some men won't go to the doctor until the last minute. We are terrified of not being useful or of external utility, especially to women.
You see men don't get approached on the street by women for the simple fact that we exist, men have no inherent value. Men simply will not say or do anything to provide and protect ourselves first, we will not take care of, nurture and pamper ourselves. We have an inclination not to call out in pain until it is unbearable or in many cases to late. We will not look after our health as much, and women, for what ever reason, will not nurture the health of their own men??? Why don't women have reciprocal obligations to men, not choices, but obligations as men do toward and for women?
I never could figure out what it is that women are supposed to do and what obligations they have that they have not made "choices" for themselves.. If someone can please help me answer this I really can use some help trying to figure it out.
So now that I'm aware that it is actually men who bear most of the suffering and neglect of society I am proud to say that I enjoy giving a helping hand to my brothermen I see on the streets. I do not donate to any women's charities. Even though there are no men's charities or advocacy for any male issues in society I always make sure I give to the Boy Scouts.
Sometimes I sit and talk to these homeless men and many I find are not stupid at all but very resourceful and cleaver in the ways they survive. Other times I give them money as I drive by.
You can really learn a lot about the uniquely male condition of homelessness. I learned that these men are not lazy as people say and that many times they once had a life and a good job. This is not to say that they have not developed a drug or alcohol problem since then but if you talk to them and get them to talk a bit you will discover something fascinating about society that we don't want to accept about ourselves. Some even worked in manufacturing and construction. I learned that many of them are veterans and many from the Gulf War and even some from the war in Afghanistan and Iraq. Some are missing arms and legs or walk on crutches and others are in wheelchairs.
Since I've been involved in Men's and Father's Rights I pay attention to culture more closely and the subtle nuances that can easily go unnoticed. I often wondered why it is only men who are standing on our corners and sleeping on our streets and under bridges. I understand now....men are worth nothing to society and to women unless we produce and it also occurs when we sacrificed our bodies so much that we have nothing left to give like the veterans I've met.
Men actually pride ourselves on our usefulness and our external utility because women will not have us if we don't cultivate this and employ it the best we can. I find it so strange that women don't nurture men in anyway and that their representation in government is for women's interests only (which for some reason does not include men).
I've seen other men give their money to their brothers and it makes me feel good. "Here you go man", "here you go brother" they say. I know now that men must help men but most importantly men must help ourselves because women are not there to be dependent on, women will not advocate or support our wellbeing, safety nor provide or protect us in anyway. They will not come to our aid if we are in danger. They promised us that they would free us from having to do so for them. They gave us their word.
There could be no such equivalent to "a strong independent woman" for men. Male independence in fact is something that is required by default or you end up under a bridge. If anything, an independent man is one who can not only take care of himself and keep himself from the male condition of homelessness but one who does not have a woman who is dependent on him.. True independence for women can be defined by lack of dependency on men and most specifically for male resources. When women leave us as is most often the case (women initiate 70% of all divorce) why can't they take care of themselves? (of the 30% of divorces initiated by men, the vast majority do not involve children)
According to Los Angeles divorce consultant Jayne Major: "Divorced men are often devastated by the loss of their children. It's a little known fact that in the United States men initiate only a small number of the divorces involving children." The strange thing is that even when men did get custody of the children we never abandoned women and divorced them. Only when women changed the laws to no-fault did things start to deteriorate.
I am afraid to say that women lied to us. They will always be dependent on men and will not free us from our gender role. They will not pay for dates, they will not support us in marriage while we stay home. Come time for divorce as always it will be the man who has to financially support her when she leaves under the Marriage 2.0 law women implemented in the 70's called no-fault.
Essentially they want to be able to leave men when no breach of marriage contract has occurred and still be supported by him. I don't really respect women for what they have done. I want to respect women. Did you know marriage is about a man getting down on his knees and giving woman gold and diamonds as a symbol that he will be her provider both in and out of marriage?
Respect and earning respect is a very big deal to men and so is a cultivated sense of duty, honor and sacrifice. So can someone please for the love of god tell me how women show respect, put men first before themselves or employ duty, honor and sacrifice toward and for men in private and public life as men do for women??? Also can someone please tell me why men have no rights to our children or the fruits of our labor after a woman leaves us? Is she required to serve men with her body or the fruits produced by it's labor after she leaves us as well or is it only men who do not have control and choice over our body? Also, why are men's bodies the property of women and the State?
I've been playing close attention for the last several years and I've noticed something peculiar, everyone I see stick out their arm at the stop light to give to a homeless man are actually other men, women will not have them. I think women are disgusted by them and viscerally feel disdain for these men, men who do not produce.
I realize why women never give to them. First it is beyond her nature to provide and protect men. Women would never take care of men and support us financially while we stay home and take care of the children, and we most certainly wouldn't feel so entitled as to say that women were oppressing us by doing all this for us. Women in fact will never do the same for us, they just won't let us. They would never risk themselves to come to our aid either...Isn't that strange?
Women retain their inherent value even when they take on more masculine gender roles but male value seems entirely weighted in external utility. Women will simply not have men unless we produce. They simply won't let us engage in their gender role as we have allowed them to do along side us.
I don't think women will ever free us like they have freed themselves, they will never marry men who do not produce. I've known two women who actually married while living at home with their parents (in their parents basement) so to speak. I know that this simply could not happen to a man. Women would not date us and they would shame us for "living in our parents basement"
It really is true, women hold inherent value for the simple fact that they exist and men do not. Again, if we do not produce for women they will not have us. By law if we do not produce for women we are placed inside of a jail cage. Isn't that strange? If men do not sign our bodies away to the State in Selective Service, we are placed inside of a cage or denied our basic rights. Were I live men are not allowed to get a drivers license unless we sign the Selective Service contract. How did men ever reach such a deplorable condition compared to women. Why are men made to be expendable and our bodies along with the fruit of it's labors transferable to women and State by force of prison??? Why can't men have rights like women can?
Everything in society and social customs are designed to provide and protect women from courtship, to marriage and after divorce. She will not free us from this, she will never be independent as she promised but rather has afforded herself all the more freedoms and choices. ISN'T THAT STRANGE!?
I can not figure out for the life of me what mandated obligations women have to men? I'm absolutely serious here and am hoping someone can help me answer this in the comments section.
What is it exactly that women do for us? I know they conceive children but children are women's sole property before and after birth and even after divorce. Beyond reproduction I can't really think of anything women are supposed to do for us. It really kills me but I know they must have something they are supposed to do but what? Is is simply that they exist and maybe we can have sex with them? What is marital rape? Why are women allowed control over their bodies and the fruit of it's labor?
Why do women get access to men's bodies and the fruits of our labor after they leave us? Why does the State control men's bodies? Why do men have so many responsibilities and obligations? Why are we the Workhorses? I can't really figure out what makes women valuable. What is it that they are supposed to do?
So I and many men have begun to ask ourselves, over all, is marriage a liability or an asset to men? Are women themselves a liability or asset to men? These are very good questions to ask ourselves.
I ask myself, since we have to pay women for their services in all aspects of life are they worth the liability? Are the mandated obligations that men have toward and for women worth what women give us in return? Why are women so dependent on men? Why can't they support themselves after they leave us?
Is their dependency on us worth it, even if the only thing women do for us is provide company, reproduce or have sex with us? Now a days, can't we get this without marriage at a much lower liability and cost? What is the difference? Why would someone feel compelled to get on their knees in front of a woman and offer her gold and jewels? What is the trade in this transaction????
Who is marriage really about, a man or a woman? You know, the proposal, the ring offering, the wedding, the choices and benefits to work or stay home, choices and benefits after divorce to be provided for by force, ownership of children etc. Who is marriage really about? What exactly are men supposed to get out of it? PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME...WHAT OBLIGATIONS, (not supported "choices") DO WOMEN HAVE TOWARD AND FOR MEN IN THEIR PUBLIC AND PRIVATE LIVES?
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"The powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the states, are reserved to the states respectively or the people"
- 10th Amendment United States Constitution
Feminism stands on the principal of equality or classlessness. These principals are the hallmark of Marxist socialist theory. Essentially equal outcome by unequal means and unequal protection under law to reach these ends.
Males being a minority both in numbers and a minority of the voting majority has lead to class conflict, oppression and division based off "gender" of this minority class.
"Bear in mind this sacred principle, that though the will of the majority is in all cases to prevail, (the female voting and numerical majority) that will to be rightful must be reasonable; that the minority (males) possess their equal rights, which equal law must protect, and to violate would be oppression" - President Thomas Jefferson.
Affirmative Action, Title IX, VAWA, Divorce, Family and Child Custody Law to name a few.
Make no mistake, women are not your natural enemy. However, they are the body politic of feminism and the female political agency responsible for it. All women are responsible for feminism and the actions of their union. They have created class division between men and women toward the ends of dividing us both. The division of male and female as separate classes with unequal representation under law and policy has been the principal means to usurp and rule our people. Feminism has destroyed the common felicity between men and women. Feminism removed ALL male rights in marriage and thus divorce while absolving women of all liability of commitment. Feminism has removed the right to fatherhood. Men have no place in the family and should not commit to the institution of it. We must both fight the tyranny of feminism.
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