What We Want In A Woman

Hmmm..... an author over at The-Spearhead posed the question....

"I’d like to invite readers to comment on some of the things that they actually do like about women. What are those things that can make you fall for a girl? What sets her apart from the others?"


I'd like to share my answer with you here....

Wow, where to start. I’ve always admired a quality in women that could be described as grace. To me female grace would imply a woman who is not selfish and will forfeit the spoils of good graces from men in the name of the higher ideal of reciprocal obligation, truth, respect, honor and responsibility. She would exhibit a tepid trepidation toward the idea of receiving excesses to suit her selfish and self centered desires.

A woman who is capable of nurturing, selflessness, empathy and who is giving only "opens up the door for me" to bestow my honor upon her. Someone who likes children, animals and nature.. I do think that women who are not spoiled by their youth, beauty and inherent attraction to men for the simple fact that she exists is very hard to come by. I do find that this is even more difficult to find a woman with grace if she is physically beautiful.

I also want qualities of grace that I could only describe as motherly qualities.

I want a woman who understands that she does not have ownership over children as if they were property and values the role of a father in the life of children.

I want someone who values the obligations and role of husband and father and will not exploit my honor and trust by taking my beloved child away from me and forcing me to financially support her and what she sees as “her” child by reducing me to the role of “Isolated Resource Producing Male” . It is simply the fact that women have the right to do the above by law that I can not bestow my honor upon one in marriage. It is because they have ownership of children that I am unwilling and unable to secure the honor of being a father.

I want a woman who believes that it should not be equality (sameness to men), independence (mutual or exploitative dis-need) , freedom and liberation (mutual dis-need) that reigns but difference, dependence, bondage and servitude that consecrates us and makes sacred our married bond.

I want a woman who will not abandon her family as so many do in much greater proportion than do men, especially if there are children involved. I want a woman that understands that her “choices” should not be enabled by male liabilities.

I simply want a woman who is not selfish and self centered as so many have become now in character and by law. I want a woman who respects sexuality and could only wish that sex did not play such a public and promiscuous role in her interactions with men in society and as now a part of her public identity. In essence someone who does not believe that females should be “sex objects”.

To me however all women are presumptively sexually available and this changes everything. It changes how I view and interact with women in general and how they view and interact with me. Though I do not pursue women for sex anymore I find that the modern woman’s identity of presumptive sexual availability affects virtually every aspect of even the most innocent, innocuous and benign interaction. I simply wish that if I were to interact with a woman at a bar or party that she was not a “sex object”. To me, all women are now sex objects.

She knows that by definition of social culture and morays that sex is on the table and as such a potential motive for my every action and potential motive for her action. It is now an inseparable part of our public relationship. I used to enjoy this quite a bit but I find myself wanting something more fulfilling, and now more than ever simply wish it were not this way. Perhaps it is something within females that will temper and recede with age. As for now I will have to maneuver around her inherent sense of value, an acute narcissism that seems to afflict the most physically desirable of females the most.

This is something of which men who are successful with women or those who care to bother pursuing her understand quite well. They promptly set about the laborious process of negating her inherent value and sense of self. It is the case that women are inherently desired, valued and worthy of men. No one speaks of the female ego so I will do so here and now. So for those who do not know, the inherent worthiness of her sex is where it comes from and this is the basis for which her ego is comprised.

Upon the most momentary of interactions I find myself repulsed by this commonality which I've found to be present in many modern, even remotely desirable woman. I wish it were removed and female grace, a type of humility and refinement would take its place. To me anyway, this is a virtually ubiquitous affliction of what could and would ordinarily be the most eligible of young, beautiful and fertile women in our culture.

I find it most disturbing that I do not honor what has become of her. I don't think women are inherently like this but rather it is something that most certainly is cultivated by American culture and values. For those of you who are students of Game, game on. As for me, a dignified conversation will suffice and a long slow process of courtship is ideal. Sexing women is something I am now indifferent to. I no longer engage the hook-up culture and for quite some time have taken respite from it. Perhaps such is the plight placed upon us by the American Cultural Revolution & "female sexual liberation" as they call it. Such is now our common struggle. Many women will ride this train until the dwindling twilight of their most fertile years...........

I also want a woman that is physically beautiful but again I must say that such an asset, in our culture anyway, often predicates a diametric opposition to the qualities for which to me, make for a truly wonderful, beautiful, endearing and desirable woman. One who could indeed hold the most sacred position to me in my family, a wife and mother.



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