Thursday, April 22, 2010

Woman I Extoll Our Sacred Bond

I am not the most religious man in terms of organized religion but I believe religion and associated writings are rooted in morality. Morality is a higher form of reasoning. It is the ability to see beyond the self and the self in relation to what can be described as the eternal.

Morality extends from a type of existential understanding, philosophy and both from complex reasoning, it in fact elucidates the not seen, the other half, the complete picture. Confucius taught that the opposites make the whole, they make the equal, the eternal. Other men of great intelligence and standing have understood this as well...

"Man and woman have each of them qualities and tempers in which the other is deficient and which in union contribute to the common felicity. Single and separate, they are not the complete human being; they are like the odd halves of scissors; they cannot answer the end of their formation." -=Benjamin Franklin=-

Morality allows us to grasp the very context of truth. In many ways only from a moral context can one understand truth. From truth, from knowing the eternal come all things good.

"Beauty is truth, truth beauty, that is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know."
-John Keats

Love is truth and truth is beauty, this is all one needs to know.

Men are beginning to fight to restore our sacred bond with you, a bond that has been sullied, desecrated, demeaned, profited off of, humiliated and exploited. You have made chivalry toward women a for profit industry and done incredible harm to men, boys, husbands, fathers and the family itself in the process.

Woman it is you and your beliefs. Woman it is your actions, your Women's Feminist leaders who are killing something within men.You seek to kill a sense of respect, duty and honor toward women and family, the chivalry you are killing in him, the father and husband in him.

I ask you what is woman to men if she is not honorable? What is woman if her station and social identity is not wife and mother?

What is woman when she becomes men's liability and
responsibility outside of the married bounds of reciprocal
obligation, duty and commitment?

What is she when she is our competition socially, politically and economically?

Beware your Feminist Leaders Women, watch closely what they are doing.....

Evil always presents itself as good. True evil is always the
exact opposite of what it purports itself to be and this is how
it hides. It is said that the greatest trick evil or (the Devil if you prefer) ever pulled was convincing the world that it didn't exist. Our difference, dependence, bondage and servitude have come to us as equality (sameness), independence, freedom and liberation.

Woman you have been deceived so that such things come through you and by you upon men. You have forsaken his body and the fruits of its labor. You have desecrated our sacred bond...

You have been lied to, we are mutually yoked yet not equals, we are different and not the same.

You are not "independent" from him but dependent and he to you.

You are not free but bonded, and he to you,

You are not "liberated" but in servitude and he to you.....

The powers that be have deceived you. They seek to destroy us. I realize now that the story of Adam and Eve is metaphorical. Woman you have been offered the apple once again. Do not partake, do not cast him asunder from you.

The most treacherous of evil has always come to man through woman and the most evil of forces knows this and uses you against men to rule us both........Woman, the future of our Republic is at stake.

"Anyone who knows anything of history knows that great social changes are impossible without feminine upheaval. Social progress can be measured exactly by the social position of the fair sex, the ugly ones included." -Karl Marx

"Destroy the family, you destroy the country." -Vladimir Lenin

From the comments section:

"What is woman if her station and social identity is not wife and mother?"

An adult with dreams and ambitions that don't revolve around someone else?

Response: Family is not something for you then. For you, it is the self you love.

For you it is equality (sameness to men), independence, freedom and liberation (mutual dis-need) that reigns.

I can only tell you that if women as a class are not a part of the family of men then you are my competition socially, politically and economically. You are "equal" and the same and will be treated no different than my competition. You are independent and deserve nothing from men. You are free and I will be free from you. You are liberated and so men shall liberate ourselves from you. You, as a separate socio-political and socio-economic class are my opposition. I will compete against you for my own wellbeing.

This also makes you and "your" children a liability to me and something that I as an "equally" "independent" and "liberated" man refuse to support. In this model women and "their" children should be left to their own devices, men should have no honor or obligation to you as individual women and as a separate class. Men as not a part of your family owe you nothing. Men as a separate socio-economic class owe nothing to you. If you are not a member of the family of men then you are my competition and in terms of our ongoing fight for representation under law to acquire the ends of competitive advantage you are my enemy.

Woman I implore you to understand that I am a student of science and history. In regard to the below my countrywoman, I ask you to recognize that this is the end of a civilization and to the Republic unless we do something about it.

Maam, with all due respect, the mating dynamic has taken a drastic deviation and has done so very quickly. Do not be alarmed by the development of Male Studies. We are trying to ascertain the damage and formulate a response the the situation. We are doing so particularly in regard to finding out and defining what our relationship to women actually is and how to deal with the death of fatherhood, marriage and being a husband.

In discussion among men at the moment for which you might find interesting is the change in our mating strategy from long term commitment based structure to a short term strategy and hook ups.

Of particular interest is the development of a profound change in male behavior patterns known as PUA and GAME. The black community is also of particular interest as primary exacerbating factors to this dynamic are much greater and prevalent in the black community and thus the mating strategy of black males. I believe the black community now has a 70% single woman birth rate.

The specific relation to the development of the welfare state and it's associated resource support construct for females is of particular interest. At the moment, it appears that the variables proportionally correspond. You will notice on the graph above the sudden down tick of single mother birth rates in 1993 and beyond, this was when one element of the resource support construct given to females i.e. welfare was reformed. Though the level of single mother births is still rising, elemental changes in how women are supported by government reduced the momentum of this rise.

Also of significant importance is the advent of the "Isolated Resource Producing Male" as a resource support construct for the female, particularly in cases of no-fault and the associated conditions placed upon the male by changes in family law introduced and successfully implemented by feminists. The combination of the two resource support constructs for females were implemented simultaneously in the 1960's and 70's. The idea was to support females financially from the public treasury while also making male financial support unconditionally transferable to females through no-fault laws. The results of pseudo-independence for females has come at a great cost and at the civil and essential liberties of men, their bodies and the fruits of their labor.

I do apologize for the poor quality of the graph but it serves it's purpose for graphical representation of the two corresponding variables in question.

There are many questions that need to be answered. Men are starting to ask ourselves what our place is in relation to women and "her" children.... In short the genders are collectively divorcing and men are seeking to find our place and rights in this new order. Equal representation under law and the right to our own bodies and the fruits of its labor are paramount in establishing Men's Liberation. Meaningful contact with our children is also paramount.

However, increasingly I believe it will be in men's best interest to secede from our sacred bond, our union, to in fact become independent and liberated as women seek to become from men. To withdraw from responsibility, obligation and liabilities female dependency and choices without equal reciprocation and liabilities toward men has brought us. This will end in one of two ways, men as part of the family and the lives of our children or men as not.

The ramifications of having separate socio-political and socio-economic interests between men and women has and will continue to place men and women in diametric opposition and competition with each other in the social, political and economic sphere. We are, and will continue to have, our own separate class interests in all realms. Men are quite aware of "women first" provisions and female only laws, as well as gynocentric resource distribution in government. We are aware that nothing has changed for us and are now seeking the change you desire or to solve the problem.


Anonymous said...

"What is woman if her station and social identity is not wife and mother?"

An adult with dreams and ambitions that don't revolve around someone else?

Anonymous said...

Adults don't dream. :)
Anyway good for you.

Anonymous said...

1st time reader. I think I'm going to be sick. I knew people like you were out there, but it's surprisingly nauseating to encounter one. I truly hope, for your own sake and the world's, that you escape your twisted mindset one day. Peace.

Anonymous said...

I find it amusing that I ended up at this website due to the comments section on a feminist website, but I am glad that I did. I admire your post, and couldn't agree with you more.

I'm a 31 year old woman, single mom of a 13 year old boy. Up until the last few years old, I was the typical angry bitch - mad at men for everything, thinking that they were all worthless, etc. It wasn't until recently that I started to respect some of the admirable men I know. I've recently begun dating a man that I dated previously in my early twenties, during my more manipulative, bitchy, disrespectful days. I have now made a conscious decision to do the best I can to treat him with the respect and kindness he deserves. I've realized that I can't just abuse a man endlessly and think that he will just keep loving me and coming back for more. I've found Speadhead to be a wonderful insight into the thoughts of men out there, and while it may sound cliched, please know that there is one woman out there who a listening and is trying to learn from what you are saying in order to strengthen what will hopefully being a life-long and loving relationship.

BTW, the most hurtful thing my boyfriend has ever said to me? When talking recently about the way things were between us when we dated the first time, he told me, "I knew you didn't respect me." It hurt me to the core. To all of the other women out there: would you want to be treated the way that you treat some of the men in your life?

Anonymous said...

1st time reader the can is over there; throw up all you want.

Bwec said...

We are just starting to understand how women's collective divorce from men, husband and fathers is affecting the social structure and creating class conflict between the needs of women and men rather than families.

The institution of "Government Husbandry" and forced male labor provision to females outside of marriage is something that is creating class conflict.

Again I urge you to understand the the modern male is viscerally aware of this change, this anomaly and seeks to find his place in this new order of "independence" and "liberation".

He to wishes to for you not to need him, he to now feels exploited by you and wants freedom, independence and liberation... I am afraid that this can head in two directions. Men as husbands and fathers or men as a separate class that is in conflict with the developing socio-political and socio-economic class that is women.

You must understand what the destruction of family means in a social, political and economic sense. The ramifications of feminist law and ideology have been vast.

Understand that Part of Male Studies is developing a formulated collective response from males and is in fact the beginning of males representing ourselves as a separate class from women. In essence, "the personal has become political".

**Why More Women Vote Democratic**

A greater proportion of women than men identify themselves as Democrats, and the gap has risen significantly over the past few decades --from 2 percent in 1952 to 12 percent in 1996. Traditional explanations focus on the rise in female labor force participation, the opposition of females to conservatives on issues such as abortion, the rise of feminism, and declining importance of religion.

However, some experts argue that none of these theories adequately explains the shift of American women to left, and they suggest that the causes, at least among middle income voters, lie in the higher divorce rates and the general decline in marriage:

Women's lower earnings make them more vulnerable when divorced or otherwise single.
Following 1970s divorce law reforms, divorce rates went from 3 percent in 1964 to 10 percent in 1996; and the proportion of married adults dropped from 84 percent to 58 percent -- resulting in an increase of poorer women over the past few decades.
Assuming that party affiliation is driven by income, this explains why women have increasingly leaned to the left.
Since the converse is also true (that is, men who divorce or don't marry become richer), this implies that higher divorce rates have caused the gap to widen.
Researchers find that as much as 94 percent of the change in the political gender gap can be explained by higher divorce rates. In fact, they estimate that divorce makes a man 27 percent less likely to be a Democrat and makes a woman 20 percent more likely to be a Democrat. These results stand even when other explanations (such as religion or labor force participation) are included in the estimation.

Source: "Why Women Lean Left", Economic Intuition, Fall 2001; based on Lena Edlund and Rohini Pande, "Why Have Women Become Left-Wing? The Political Gender Gap and the Decline in Marriage", Forthcoming.

Anonymous said...

"You seek to kill a sense of respect, duty and honor toward women and family, the chivalry you are killing in him, the father and husband in him".


This sense of respect, duty and honor toward women that you speak of??? Please. Approximately 1.3 million women are physically assaulted by an intimate partner each year in the US. Approximately 33% of female murder victims were killed by an intimate partner. 1 in 12 women will be stalked in their lifetime. 78% of rape and sexual assault victims are women.

As a woman, I have a greater chance of dying from being murdered by my intimate partner than dying from cancer.

Feminism does not try to take anything away from you. It tries to better the lives of women. If that means an idiot scumbag like you can't find a wife to clean up after him, well that's just too bad.

Also, just because somebody recognizable like Keats or Lenin said something once, doesn't mean it is right. I mean Lenin? Please. And try living in this decade.

Bwec said...

YOU SAY: "Approximately 1.3 million women are physically assaulted by an intimate partner each year in the US. Approximately 33% of female murder victims were killed by an intimate partner. 1 in 12 women will be stalked in their lifetime. 78% of rape and sexual assault victims are women."

Interesting, do you have a source for this data? I would like to add add the following to our discussion...

"The survey found that men who were physically assaulted by an intimate partner in the previous
12 months averaged 3.5 assaults. Thus, there were about 2.9 million physical assaults perpetrated
against U.S. men by intimate partners in the previous 12 months amd 4.5 million physical assaults
committed against U.S. women by intimate partners in the 12

Of the combined 7.4 million assaults A difference between men and women of only 1.6 million. Remember, there are NO domestic violence services, shelters or laws protecting men! Boys of 12 years of age or older are turned away from women's shelters as well.

The lack of services or equal protection under law as well as
the cultural taboo of a male calling for assistance for a domestic violence case may in fact be detrimental to reducing domestic violence as a whole..


Bwec said...

ALSO...would you happen to have the long terms trends for this behavior you have referenced?

I am not quite sure but I suspect these behaviors may infact be on the increase between both sexes.

Thank you so much : )

Bwec said...

YOU SAY: "Feminism does not try to take anything away from you. It tries to better the lives of women."

And the rise of the Men's and Father's Rights Movement along with Male Studies is not trying to take away anything from you, it tries to better the lives of men.

Hopefully, and increasingly the male perspective will be articulated for the first time since second wave feminism began. Hopefully a constructive dialog will emerge between the two fields.

It is my hope that male academics will no longer fear losing their jobs if they say something that affects the feelings of women.

It is my hope that respect for intellectual discourse can be restored in the highest chambers of academia and not subject to a feminist hegemony and social code.

At the moment however the dialog is heavily one sided and in my experience and the experience of others it is heavily anti male.

Bwec said...

I believe that Male Studies is important in that it will offer a perspective from the male point of view which undoubtably will be scientifically objective in origin and less ideological and political..

When I attended my Women’s Studies class I really could not understand how these people got into our colleges in the first place. As unfortunate as it is these people are now IN THE WHITEHOUSE. Anyway, it really blew my mind that they were teaching this stuff in the science wings of higher educational institutions ALL OVER THE COUNTRY…

Another issue that Male Studies will contest is the fact that gender is a social construct, a much needed addition to human knowledge if we are to be making “the personal political” and instituting gender based policies from the Federal Level. Through my studies I do not think our founders intended to make policies based of gender race or religion. The fact that gender secular interests are building representation within government is ALARMING TO ME and to anyone who understands the very basic elements on which this country was founded..

Further Reading:

“Feminism, Socialism, and Communism are one in the same, and Socialist/Communist government is the goal of feminism.” – Catharine A. MacKinnon, Toward a Feminist Theory of the State (First Harvard University Press, 1989), p.10

“A world where men and women would be equal is easy to visualize, for that precisely is what the Soviet Revolution promised.” – Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex (New York, Random House, 1952), p.806

“The Women’s Caucus [endorses] Marxist-Leninist thought.” — Robin Morgan, Sisterhood is Powerful, p. 597

See works of Alexandra Kollontai:

The Bolsheviks opened a Council On Women and Girls just like Obama did. It was called the Zhenotdel

Michelle said...

Statistics show that while men tend to inflict injury at higher rates, the majority of domestic violence overall is reciprocal.

Very few studies have shown men to aggress more frequently than women. However, until recently the bulk of domestic violence research did not even ask about woman-on-man violence. It has also been found that many kinds of behavior, such as pushing and slapping, are experienced by both genders, but are mainly called "violence" by female victims. Early studies that merely asked "have you been a victim of domestic violence" did find far lower levels of male victims; but when they asked about specific behaviors ("have you been slapped, punched,...), the numbers evened out. Justice Department studies show that men are 32 percent less likely than women to report any form of violent victimization.

In couples reporting spousal violence, 27 percent of the time the man struck the first blow; the woman in 24 percent. The rest of the time, the violence was mutual, with both partners brawling. The results were the same even when the most severe episodes of violence were analyzed. In order to counteract claims that the reporting data was skewed, female-only surveys were conducted, asking females to self-report, and the data was the same.

Coramae Richey Mann, a researcher at the Department of Criminal Justice, Indiana University/Bloomington, found that only 59 percent of women jailed for spousal murder claimed self-defense and that 30 percent had previously been arrested for violent crimes.

Women charged with killing their husbands were acquitted in 12.9 percent of the cases, while husbands charged with killing their wives were acquitted only 1.4 percent of the time. In addition, women convicted of killing their husbands receive an average sentence of only six years, while male spousal killers got 17 years, according to an LA Times article citing Department of Justice data.

These findings, however, may have other problems. Women are far more likely to use weapons in their domestic violence, whether throwing a plate or firing a gun. Women are also much more likely than men to enlist help if they wish to kill their spouse; but such multiple-offender homicides are not counted toward domestic-violence statistics. In addition, Warren Farrell points out that there are several "female-only" defenses to murder charges, such as the posthumous allegation of abuse; in short, our data on rates of domestic homicide are incomplete.

There is a whole source of new evidence to suggest that some of the research into family abuse has been politicized. Sam and Bunny Sewell, Family Resources & Research state that "However, misleading statistics are a deliberate fund raising tactic for women's shelters. The shelter movement almost never mentions scientific studies.

I think women and men are equally responsible for any amount of domestic violence. After all, a woman has to ask herself why she is in an abusive relationship in the first place, doesn't she?

Just to set the record straight, 40,000 women died from breast cancer in the United States in 2006.

Michelle said...

"As a woman, I have a greater chance of dying from being murdered by my intimate partner than dying from cancer."

Wait a second, isn't that a good thing? Would you really want cancer to cause a higher incidence of death?

Bwec said...

Thank you so much for your post Michelle. We are making tremendous progress in the area of understanding domestic violence.

Again, I believe that Male Studies will bring a much needed objective and scientific perspective along with the articulation of the male experience which men have never felt free to speak about before.

The advent of Male Studies is most certainly an exciting development.

Sarah said...

It's very beautiful how you explain it. I like how you show how men and women are supposed to be together. I came here from fbomb. The whole thing is really sad.

Bwec said...

Thank you Sarah. Yes, there is certainly something sacred about the bond men and women share. I think it would be wise for us to aspire to keep it.

I wonder what it is exactly that you find sad about the current state of things so to speak. I wonder what your angst pertains to but I have a feeling I know what you mean.

Bwec said...

WOW, the feminists are having their own intellectual conjecture on this very topic. They have reduced themselves to something they call a "troll contest"

I am happy to say that I've won the contest! Though as sad as it is they are unable to articulate a comment here on my blog.

I'm glad they had the courtesy to leave what men define as a "circle jerk" on their website.

You see, this type of behavior is what men call a "circle jerk", a type of homogeneous pep rally. Women seem to be very communal and non seem so apt to break away from the crowd and say something unique or thought provoking.

Circle jerks most often put to an end in no short order among men. I imagine it is a large reason why men are able to get things done.

I did however ask them to participate here on my blog.

A link to the circle jerk. (A pep rally where a group is so preoccupied with congratulating each other or denigrating ones enemy with cheep conjecture that nothing is "getting done".)

I don't think women understand what "getting done" means. There is a whole male social culture built around "producing", "getting done".

Perhaps it is because women are inherently valuable to men for the simply fact that they exist and are approached and courted by males accordingly. Their fertile potential energy is inherently valuable. In essence women are not as driven to produce for the simple fact that they don't have to.

In fact, if women were actually independent from what men produce and male production was not so important there would be no issue as to whether women were strong and independent or not.

Obviously women are not strong and independent and therefore men must begin to negotiate the terms of their dependency on us. We should start with the right to meaningful contact with our children and the right to our own bodies and the fruits of it's labor in woman support alimony.

Anyway, I've invited them here to speak and left comments that I expect to be censored. Feminists do not like to be confronted and engage in debate...

Link to the "circle jerk"