1 in 4 raped?

BEFORE I BEGIN, A FEW EXTRACTS::

"For 25 years, attempts to prevent rape have not only failed to be informed by an evolutionary approach; they have been based on explanations designed to make ideological statements rather than to be consistent with scientific knowledge of human behavior. One cannot understand evolutionary explanations of rape, much less evaluate them, without a solid grasp of evolutionary theory. Failure to appreciate this point has caused much valuable time to be wasted on misplaced attacks on evolutionary explanations." -RANDY THORNHILL and CRAIG T. PALMER
The MIT Press

From the statement above one can infer that the scientists are asking that rape be understood from an evolutionary, physiological and biological perspective in order to understand and prevent it. That rape does not occur by conscious male intention to hurt women.

EXTRACT FROM MY BLOG POST ENTITLED ""I will attempt to directly correlate crime not only as predominently perpetrated by men but it's direct corelation with the acquisition of resources. I will directly correlate this with lower socioeconomic status and lack of adequate infrastructure both educational and economic leading to an ill or the virtually non existence of equal opportunity for competitive advantage among males for resources. I will also demonstrate the direct link and correlation to the occurrence of rape or forced rape in environments where male competitive advantage is in turmoil or non existent such as the case in poverty stricken areas and combat zones in war. (PENDING)

Carrie Lucas, of the Independent Womens Forum, rebukes claims that "one in four" women are raped.[http://www.iwf.org/news/show/19076.html One in Four? Rape myths do injustice, too]

While seated in my Women's Studies class I first heard the statement that "One in four women are raped" I was very deeply hurt to the core of my being. I knew in my heart and mind right away that it had to be a false statement especially in the context in which it was presented. Despite how singular my experience may have been. Pop Culture and many but not all public speaking and information disseminated about rape is misleading. Frankly the way it was presented in this class was offensive and divisive and demeaning to men. So I set out to find the answer. One fallacy is that as Mrs Carrie Lucas illustrated rape is alleged by such a wide range of subjective feelings of women and circumstances. Women are allowed to define and indeed to allege rape by a state of feeling rather than a logical phase of events or actions that can be proven beyond a reasonable doubt. In essence many allegations and actual rape convictions are made by a jury of the public and men are imprisoned for many many many years of their lives because a woman decided that she was raped. In this way in many instances she is not made to take any responsibility for her actions and subsequent feelings brought about by them. The sex act and indeed making love in our culture is always seen as something that is done to her by a man in all instances and is never something she takes part in in any way.

Many rapes are alleged by a sexual act that a woman regrets and most are not forced rapes by physical violence. Feminists say that rape is defined as nonconsenting penetration obtained by force, by threat of bodily harm, or when the victim is incapable of giving consent. There are elements of this definition that I disagree with.

My objections are (1) allegations of rape influenced by regret or (non consenting)and (2) allegations of rape brought about by > "or incapable of giving consent" that leads to injustice. I agree for the most part but disagree and will illustrate my points below:

IT MUST BE MADE KNOWN, AND MODERN SCIENCE AGREES THAT TRUE RAPE IS NOT AN ACT OF PASSION BUT AN ACT OF VIOLENCE. Ask any man you know if he would be able to obtain an erection after directly attacking a woman dragging her into the bushes while she is fighting and crying and the answer is NO. It must be made clear that most men are not physiologically or psychologically able to become aroused or obtain an erection from this. True rape is a pathology and aberrational skew from normal male biology and is not normal male behavior or biology. Contrary to feminists would have you believe most men are not potential rapists waiting to strike. I will, in the article show that chances are infact EXTREEMLY rare that a woman will be walking down the street at night and encounter a pathological rapist. Again please let me make clear MOST ALL MEN ARE NOT EVEN PSYCHOLOGICALLY OR PHYSIOLOGICALLY CAPABLE OF THIS FORCEFUL RAPE WHERE THE WOMAN IS HURTING AND THE MAN BECOMES AROUSED!!! In fact if most men saw this happening the perpetrator would likely be attacked by him! Active intervention would be made in some form by most all men. According to Psychology of Women Quarterly (references later in article) only 2% of rapes occur in this way.

80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
[Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol. 14 p. 403-26]--I found an article disputing this finding. However it seems to be consistent with ill health of children from fatherless homes as found true by more substantial sources. I can say that indeed since forceful violent rape is a pathology it makes sense that an ill background of the perpetrator is a given--

I BELIEVE THAT RAPE CAN ONLY BE DEFINED IN TERMS OF (1)-A FORCEFUL PATHOLOGICAL ACT OF VIOLENCE and (2)-PASSIONATE INTERPLAY BUT ACTIVE RESISTANCE WHERE BOTH PHYSICAL AND VERBAL "NO!" is made clear. (3) Situations in which the victim is unable to express the "NO!" response such as unconsciousness or where she is the ONLY party under the influence of drugs or alcohol. The rest of cases are disputable and misunderstood and improperly conceived do to gender bias and cultural perception and expectation rather than physcological and physiological circumstances, especially given the environments (majority take place in the home) and relational context in play where these events take place. I will make my case for this below.

It is my belief that that (1) (2) and (3) are the only forms of rape and the rest are tentative situations and disputable. Given the statistics below I will make the point that these tentative and disputable situations more often than not lead to the majority of rape allegations and convictions. Further more in any case the incident must be proven that it took place in such a manner specified above without a reasonable doubt or the case will be dropped. This is not currently the case. Many convictions are made by a jury of the public who have preconceived notions of rape and men. Rape has the severe consequences of up to 15 years in prison in NON VIOLENT RAPE. Many men are hurt from such gross injustice and demonization. This is compounded by feminists affect on social perceptions of the issue of Rape. Being singular, ideological, devisive and cruel. Again I will illustrate this below.

MANY RAPE CASES ARE BROUGHT ABOUT BY: Step (1) A PASSIONATE INTERPLAY AND FEELINGS (EXPRESSED OR NOT EXPRESSED) BY ONE OR BOTH PARTNERS,(2)SEXUAL INTERCOURSE TAKES PLACE WITH INTERNAL NON CONSENT THAT IS NOT EXPRESSED, OR IS MISUNDERSTOOD WHILE UNDER THE INFLUENCE. (3) REGRET TAKES PLACE BY ONE OR BOTH PARTNERS.(4) RAPE ALLEGATIONS ARE MADE BY THE WOMAN AND THE MAN IS PLACEED IN PRISON FOR MANY YEARS.

(IT IS CURRENTLY MISTAKENLY BELIEVED THAT MEN CAN NOT REGRET THE SEX ACT AND FURTHERMORE THAT IT IS ALWAYS CORRELATED TO WILLFUL INTENT BY THE MYTH OF INSEPARABLE CONNECTION TO AROUSAL FROM ERECTION) ORAL SEX PERFORMED ON A MAN WHILE "UNABLE TO GIVE CONCENT" WHILE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF DRUGS OR ALCOHOL IS, IN A LEGAL CONTEXT RAPE. NEVER THE LESS NO ONE TAKES THIS SERIOUSLY.) MEN ARE CAPABLE OF FEELING DEEP SHAME AND REGRET FROM SEX. MEN ARE CAPABLE OF BEING VIOLATED SEXUALLY. HOWEVER IF HE DID NOT MAKE IT EXPLICITLY CLEAR AND TRAUMA CAN NOT BE QUANTIFIED THEN THIS IS NOT RAPE.

ONE MUST UNDERSTAND THAT THE ACTUAL PSYCHOLOGICAL HARM IN ANY RAPE CASE MUST BE MADE IN ORDER TO QUANTIFY THE OFFENSE. MANY RAPE CASES ARE PROSECUTED BASED OFF EXPRESSED OR ASSUMED SUBJECTIVE FEMALE FEELINGS AND ASSUMED TRAUMA THAT IS CURRENTLY NOT QUANTIFIED. WE DO INDEED HAVE THE CAPABILITY TO SCAN FEMALE BRAINS UNDER FUNCTIONAL MRI WHILE SHOWING THEM IMAGES OR OTHER STIMULUS IN ORDER TO ASSES ACTUAL TRAUMA. I BELIEVE THAT UNDER CURRENT LAW RAPE AND IT'S ASSOCIATED CONVICTIONS DO NOT ACCOUNT FOR SUCH INFORMATION. HOWEVER SUCH EVIDENCE SHOULD BE VIED AS CIRCUMSTANTIAL GIVEN THAT PRIOR TRAUMA CAN INFLUENCE SUBJECTIVE FEELINGS TOWARD THE ENCOUNTER IN QUESTION.

THE SCENARIO ABOVE HAS ALSO (AND ALMOST MOST OFTEN OCCURED UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ALCOHOL IN 47% OF ALL RAPE CASES AND MOST PROBABLY OVER HALF OF CASES UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF DRUGS OR BOTH)TAKEN PLACE UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF DRUGS OR ALCOHOL. THOUGH BOTH PARTIES ARE EQUALLY INTOXICATED AND EQUALLY UNABLE TO MAKE PROPER JUDGMENT OR EVEN REMEMBER THE INCIDENT, RESPONSIBILITY IS STILL PLACED ON THE BOY OR MAN TO MAINTAIN COMPOSURE, CONTROL AND PROPER JUDGMENT UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ANY AMOUNT OF DRUGS OR ALCOHOL AND HE IS SEEN RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL ACTS OF SEX.

MODERN SCIENCE HAS PROVEN AND MOST MEN AND PERHAPS WOMEN KNOW THAT AN ERECTION OFTEN TIMES IS NOT ALWAYS CORRELATED WITH AROUSAL AND OFTEN TIMES CAN OCCUR INVOLUNTARILY AND SEPARATE FROM ACTUAL AROUSAL. PERHAPS EVEN MORE SO UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF DRUGS OR ALCOHOL. SIGNALS ARE ACTUALLY SENT THAT ARE TELLING THE PENIS TO BECOME ERECT AT ALL TIMES AND VICE VERSA THROUGH THE BALANCED SIGNALS OF THE SYMPATHETIC AND PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM. IT IS WHEN THE SIGNALS BECOME BLOCKED, IMPARED AND OUT OF BALANCE IN THE AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM THAT AN ERECTION CAN OCCUR. IN FACT THE SEQUENCE OF EVENTS CAN OCCUR IN THE FORM OF ERECTION AND THEN AROUSAL OR AROUSAL AND THEN ERECTION. THE SAME IS TRUE FOR FEMALE LUBRICATION OF THE VAGINA. AROUSAL IS NOT DIRECTLY CONNECTED TO LUBRICATION RESPONSE. Alcohol actually increases suseptibiity to this to a point and then decreases suseptibility when larger amounts are consumed. Not to mention how other drugs may affect our physiology.

MY POINT IS THAT AN ERECTION CAN NOT BE CORRELATED OR CONNECTED WITH AROUSAL NOR CAN THE LUBRICATION OF THE VAGINA. SO WHERE DOES THAT LEAVE US????????

BOTH PARTIES ARE IN CLOSE PROXIMITY AND THE INVOLUNTARY RESPONSE OF VAGINAL LUBRICATION TAKES PLACE (IN THE FORM OF ARROUSAL THEN LUBRICATION OR LUBRICATION THEN AROUSAL THEN THE INVOLUNTARY RESPONSE OF ERECTION TAKES PLACE IN THE SAME FASHION. WE ARE THEN LEFT WITH THE VARIABLE OF JUDGMENT AND WE ALL KNOW THAT UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF ALCOHOL THE SAME BRAIN CENTERS FOR JUDGMENT ARE IMPAIRED. SO WE ARE BOTH ON EQUAL GROUND SO FAR, LETS CONTINUE. IT TAKES JUST AS MUCH EFFORT TO GET THE PENIS INSIDE THE VAGINA BY BOTH PARTIES UNLESS VIOLENCE IS USED. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN VERY EASILY. WE ARE LEFT WITH NO VARIABLE OF DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE ACTIONS OF THE MAN OR WOMAN AT THIS POINT SO WHAT IS LEFT, THE FALSE ASSUMPTION THAT SEX AND MAKING LOVE IS SOMETHING THAT A MAN DOES TO A WOMAN AND IS DONE SO IN EVERY CASE and THE MYTH THAT AROUSAL IS ALWAYS PRESENT IN A MALE AND THUS IN EVERY INSTANCE, CORRELATED DIRECTLY TO INTENT FUELED BY DESIRE AND THUS MOTIVE OF ACTION TO SATISFY AROUSAL IS ALWAYS PRESENT AND THUS HIS ACTIONS ARE A WILLFUL RESPONSE WITH AROUSAL BEING THE MOTIVE IN ALL CASES AS THEY ARE SEEN AS INSEPARABLE. ONE CAN SEE FROM THE BELOW THAT EVEN IN CASES OF ABUSE MALE ERECTION RESPONSE AND EVEN ORGASM ARE POSSIBLE.

http://www.malesurvivor.org/myths.html>>Male erection response and misunderstandings: Myth- If a male experiences sexual arousal or orgasm from abuse, this means he was a willing participant or enjoyed it.

Women rape children???
http://www.canadiancrc.com/female_sexual_predators_awareness.aspx

In reality, males can respond physically to stimulation (get an erection) even in traumatic or painful sexual situations. Therapists who work with sexual offenders know that one way a perpetrator can maintain secrecy is to label the males sexual response as an indication of his willingness to participate. "You liked it, you wanted it," they'll say. Many survivors feel guilt and shame because they experienced physical arousal while being abused. Physical (and visual or auditory) stimulation is likely to happen in a sexual situation. It does not mean that the male wanted the experience or understood what it meant at the time.


Please understand that according to the Psychology of Women Quarterly rape under the influence of a alcohol by both partners alone constitutes 47% of ALL rape cases and this statistic does not include drug use. According to the same source, of all alleged rapes a vast majority or 67.6% take place in the home of the victim, perpetrator, or shared home. Of these a LARGE majority are of someone of romantic or close involvement with the victim. By viewing the statistics for rape produced by the Women's Quarterly. The numbers are consistent and create an objective picture of rape that contrasts popular belief and those perpetuated by feminists.

30.9% perpetrators home
26.6% in the victims home
10.1% in homes shared by the victim and perpetrator.
Only 3.6% of rapes occur outdoors.

Male as Perpetrator Frequency
Steady dating partner 21.6%
Casual friend 16.5%
Ex-boyfriend 12.2%
Acquaintance 10.8%
Close friend 10.1%
Casual date 10.1%
Husband 7.2%
Stranger 2%

Female as Perpetrator Frequency
Steady dating partner 18.6%
Casual friend 4.1%
Ex-girlfriend 22.6%
Acquaintance 3.1%
Close friend 9.4%
Casual date 2.2%
Wife 13.2%
Stranger 1.1%

(Sources of stats above: Abbey, A., BeShears, R., Clinton-Sherrod, A. M., & McAuslan, P. (2004). Psychology of Women Quarterly, 28, 323-332."Similarities and differences in women's sexual assault experiences based on tactics used by the perpetrator". Accessed 10 December 2007>

http://www.hawaii.edu/hivandaids/Similarities_And_Differences_In_Women_s_Sexual_Assault_Experiences_Based_On_Tactics.pdf

-Female as perpetrator Stats: UCSC Rape Prevention Education: Rape Statistics)
http://www2.ucsc.edu/rape-prevention/statistics.html



THE FALLACY IS THAT RAPE IS ASSUMED BECAUSE A MAN IS ALWAYS ASSUMED TO BE AROUSED WHEN INTERCOURSE TAKES PLACE. AROUSAL IS STRONGY ASSOCIATED WITH INDUCING INTENT, INTENT IS THE CAUSATION OF ACTION AND THE ACTION OF !!!WILLFUL!!! INTERCOURSE FURTHERMORE IN THE CONTEXT OF IMPAIRED JUDGEMENT OF DRUGS AND ALCOHOL THAT CONSITUTE THE MAJORITY OF RAPE. THUS IT IS FALSELY ASSUMED THAT A MAN IS ALWAYS AROUSED WHEN INTERCOURSE TAKES PLACE. THE ACT OF INTERCOURSE IS ALWAYS VIEWED AS AN ACTION FUELED BY THE INTENT OF AROUSAL BY A MAN AND THUS THE SATISFACTION OF AROUSAL THE MOMENT THE PENIS ENTERS THE VAGINA IN ALL INSTANCES WHERE AN ERECTION IS PRESENT. HE IS THE WILLFUL PENETRATOR AND SHE IS THE PASSIVE PARTY BEING PENETRATED REGUARDLESS OF INTOXICATION AND IMPAIRED JUDGEMENT. FURTHERMORE IT TAKES JUST AS MUCH EFFORT TO GET THE PENIS INSIDE THE VAGINA BY BOTH PARTIES. IT DOES NOT HAPPEN VERY EASILY.

IN FACT NOT TO DETRACT FROM THE SERIOUSNESS OF RAPE BUT WITH AN OPEN MIND IT WOULD BE A GREAT EXCERCISE FOR MEN AND WOMEN TO ROLE PLAY TO EXPERIENCE HOW HARD IT IS TO PENETRATE A WOMAN WITH CONSTRICTED MUSCLES OF VAGINISMUS AND FORCEFUL LEG CLOSURE. INDEED I BELIEVE THAT UNDER GREAT STRESS THE VAGINA IS CAPABLE OF PROTECTING ITSELF HOWEVER CRAZY THAT SOUNDS AND UNDER SUCH CONDITIONS PENETRATION IS EXTREMELY DIFFICULT. MY POINT BEING THAT IN MOST CASES BOTH PARTIES ARE RESPONSIBLE OTHER THAN WHEN FORCE IS USED. THAT INDEED THERE IS QUITE A DISPARITY BETWEEN FORCEFUL AND NOT FORCEFUL RAPE GIVEN THE MAGNITUDE OF FEMALE DEFENSE MECHANISMS SHE IS CAPABLE OF ENACTING THROUGH TRAMA INDUCED VAGINISMUS AND PHYSICAL DEFENSE.

I BELIEVE SEX AND MAKING LOVE IS SEEN IN OUR CULTURE AS SOMETHING THAT IS DONE TO A WOMAN BY A MAN LEADING TO PROBLEMS IN ROMANTIC UNDERSTANDING OF MEN AND MEN'S NEEDS. SO TO EXPRESS IT CRUDELY, IN THE ACT OF "FUCKING" THE WOMAN IS SEEN AS THE ONE BEING "FUCKED". THIS SKEWED PERCEPTION OF POWER DYNAMIC IN THE SEX ACT IS DEMEANING TO BOTH SEXES. IT ALSO LEADS US TO SEE THE VAST MAJORITY OF SEX ACTS ALLEGED AS RAPE IS SOMETHING THE MAN DOES TO HER. SUCH A CLAIM IS A RESULT OF GENDER BIAS, SKEWED PERCEPTION OF THE PHYSIOLOGY AND PHYCOLOGY OF CAUSATIONAL FORCES IN A SEXUAL UNION.


It must be made clear that sex and making love is not something a man does to a woman. Women must be encouraged to partake in the sex act and making love. To take an active role and understand that men do not make love to women it is something that is shared, reciprocated and mutual. That she is not the passive and dominated one and the victim of sex. One can then see how a man and woman are equally responsible for the sex act or making love when both are intoxicated by alcohol or drugs. Currently when both sexes are in an equal state of impaired judgment the man is responsible and it is considered rape, or he can be tried by law for rape, should she so choose.

Regardless if it was a CONSENSUAL SEX ACT or MAKING LOVE while under the influence of drugs or alcohol she can always decide that she was incapable of giving consent at that time and the man is imprisoned for many many years.

Given the power women hold over men I am surprised that as easily as a woman can take a man's freedom away and sentence him to many years of incarceration more men do not carry a dated waiver form for women to sign when they are behind closed doors together. Or perhaps video tape every waking and sleeping moment they are together without a witness.

SO HERE WE ARE, PLEASE KNOW THAT:>>>Statisticly most rapes take place by someone very close to he person and under the influence of drugs or alcohol by one or both parties, takes place in their homes and is non violent. These occurrences of rape, whether perceived or actual are the products of biased cultural perceptions of the sex act and gender roles,lack of judgement from drugs and alcohol, impaired sexual physiological systems and skewed perception of social cues and communication while under the influence. Furthermore I believe that most of these cases occur by people who have a close relationship in almost all cases care deeply or have cared deeply for one another and most of all (CONTRARY TO THE WAY FEMINISTS AND WOMEN'S STUDIES PRESENTS IT) did not always have harmful intentions when alleged rapes occur. More alleged rapes occur from miscommunication, misunderstanding by each sex of the others essential natures and needs and assumptions of those needs by one or both sexes regarding the other. Most rapes are not violent or even often times intentional.

I will say that many boys do not understand and are deeply shamed rather than informed of our essential natures. Boys are taught about rape in an accusational tone rather than in a informational, understanding and compassionate way. There is an undertone of anger towards him when he is taught about rape and he is left with the feeling that he and men are bad and hurt women in numbers. This is not true and is deeply hurtful to his essential nature of love and protective feelings he has inside toward them. Man's heart is broken when he is told these things in this way. It goes against all that he knows and instinctually feels that he is toward and for women.



There is also statutory rape which is defined by actual and normal male attraction to any girl who is biologically able to reproduce, exhibits secondary sexual characteristics such as breasts, separated hips and ovulation and is otherwise biologically able and physically ready to reproduce but legal statutes of regulation of male tendency is in place to penalize his attraction to reduce incident of copulation with girls based on age not biology.

In the United States, state statues allow males of any age to copulate with age ranges from girls as young as 14 to 18 years old. Feminists and popular culture fails to recognize this normal male biology of attraction and labels this is pedophilia (SEX WITH A CHILD). THIS IS SIMPLY NOT TRUE. IT IS PERFECTLY NORMAL FOR MEN TO BE ATTRACTED PHYSICALLY TO ANY YOUTHFUL FEMALE OF REPRODUCTIVE POTENTIAL AND PHYSICALLY DISPLAYS SUCH POTENTIAL BY THAT OF ADEQUATE BREASTS AND WAIST TO HIP RATIO.

Contemporary society does not recognize this and in fact shames, demonizes and exploits the endless supply of men who are willing to copulate with fertile young women in the show "To Catch a Predator" by Dateline NBC. The show perpetuates the idea that our society is plagued with sick men. When in reality in a biological context men have an overwhelming preference for youth or younger women. Young biologically reproductively capable females ARE ATTRACTIVE TO MALES and subject to the duality of male mating strategy. Youth and beauty are primary sexually selective pressures male biology places on men. (Please see my blog, sexually selective traits of the female.)


Anti-Male messages are so prevalent in our culture that there is fear in the hearts of all when I interact with children at the playground with my newphew. (My nephew is off with my brother and I enjoy interacting with children who bless their heart will come up to a perfect stranger to share and play with you)

I am constantly aware that I am viewed a a potential pedophile rather than a provider and protector of the children. I feel alienated from my society and culture as a man. I can feel the eyes on me at all times. I am deeply saddened by this. I feel that I am an oppressor and source of harm toward women and children by default in my society and I am deeply pained and tortured by this. I want to be seen and accepted for what I and many men know that we are inside. I want for women to know and see me this way as by enlarge and and in GREAT NUMBERS this is the truth of men.

I believe that the current environment will actually create the men that we are told that we are. A monster will behave as a monster if this is what he believes he is. Please love our boys and men and know the pride and swelling he feels deep within his chest when empowered and taught that he is loved and appreciated.

OTHER ARTICLES DISPELLING THE RAPE MYTH:http://www.city-journal.org/2008/18_1_campus_rape.html

Women rape children???
http://www.canadiancrc.com/female_sexual_predators_awareness.aspx

There is an alarmingly high rate of sexual abuse by females in the backgrounds of rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men - 59% (Petrovich and Templer, 1984), 66% (Groth, 1979) and 80% (Briere and Smiljanich, 1993). A strong case for the need to identify female perpetrators can be found in Table 4, which presents the findings from a study of adolescent sex offenders by O'Brien (1989). Male adolescent sex offenders abused by "females only" chose female victims almost exclusively."